I know it is my fault, and I am gonna take complete responisbility for my actions and he is gonna do it too, and we decided to keep it...
Are we making the wrong choice?
Im like...really scared and nervous. I know my mom won't kick me out, but I know she will be really pissed. Me and my boyfriend have the ';emo/scene'; look, and I know she is gonna give me hell for it just because of his appearance and bringing in a whole bunch of stereotypes.
He and his family are really rich, and he has a job himself along with going to school....
Should we consider abortion/adoption? or should we keep it?
Normally, I'm a person who is Pro-Choice and i remember thinking to myself a loongg time ago that if I ever got preg I'd abort it, but now...I don't really think I could..i feel as though it'd break my heart...
Any advice? My boyfriend and I could reallyy use it
ThanksAm i making the wrong choice? (Teenage pregnancy, advice please..?)?
You can't trust anyone else's opinions with something like this. This is a big decision, it can and will effect the rest of your life. You need to do what you and your boyfriend think is right. If you feel ready for a baby, and able to juggle school, work, and looking after a family, then go for it, but if you're not ready for all of that then don't keep it.
You can't let anyone else make this decision for you. And it is selfish to have a baby that you're not ready for; it ruins the baby's life. And keeping it just because you think abortion is wrong is not brave, or right. You need to do what YOU are ABLE to do. If you're able to give the baby everything that it needs, including your time and attention, and lots of money, then go for it.Am i making the wrong choice? (Teenage pregnancy, advice please..?)?
i think that you should keep it. you can do it :D
and its good that you think you will have good support on both sides.
also
just stay in school.
oh and when you tell your mom, expect her to be angry so let her blow off some steam by using the whole emo/scene thing as an excuse. she will get over it. just be mature and dont yell at her or anything :D
good luck!!!!!!!
Definitely go with either adoption or abortion, whatever you feel is right. However, I highly suggest not keeping it. Even if you have the monetary means you still haven't fully experienced life. Also, just because his family is rich doesn't mean that they'll support him or the baby.
sgtshamy fyi a 5 year old cannot have a baby. unless they magically got there period when they were five.
i think you sound responcible to have it, and if your boyfriend is supporting you then i dont see why not.
my parents had me and my sister young and we turned out just fine.
i think you should have the baby, reading this, it sounds like you want it. and can actually care for it. :) good luck
and for that person who thinks 5 year olds cannot have babies...here is a link to prove you wrong mister. http://www.oddee.com/item_90966.aspx
I'd give it up to a family who wants a child and is prepared for taking care of a child.
A family with a stable income and one that can give your child the best life possible.
Do what YOU want to do.
I decided to keep my baby. I couldn't go through an abortion and adoption was not an option cuz I wanted my baby.
Keep the baby. You certainly have the financial ability to raise it.
I REALLY wonder how abortion isnt murder??
Listen to me. You are 16. This could possibly decide the outcome of the rest of your life. I think you should abort.
It's not up to me, is it?
I will just say this, if you already have doubts about getting an abortion you will regret it for the rest of your life. Every woman has the right to make the decision for their selff and I judge no one, that is whomever you pray to / believe in's choice, but i will say this, women all the time say they regret having an abortion, regret giving their child up, but you could never have your baby, see your child and regret having them.
Your not anembarrassmentt to anyone do not let people on here sway your decision in anyway, you need to look in your heart and no what you can live with on yourconsciencee.I got pregnant at 15, moved out at 15 with my boyfriend because I couldnt handle all the family fighting, I ended up having another baby at 17 and they are now 11 %26amp; 9 and I wouldnt change it for the world. Things are a little backwards yes, im finishing college now to become an RN, we had some tuff times, i did miss out on my teen years but i love them and wouldnt change it for the world, i promise you are strong enough to do whatever your heart tells you is right for you, we all are. And if you EVER need advice or to talk to someone who has been through it feel free to message me.
Blessings to you and your baby.
This is not a question anyone but you can answer, You should consider all the options and you can take the advice of your boyfriend, family, friends and others but at the end of the day you are the one who will have to live with the choice you make.
All the advice I would give is for you to realise that being a parent changes everything in your life and even though others may help and your boyfriend may always be with you to help it is a life changing experience being responsible for another human being.
There is no right or wrong answer only what is right for you.
Some of you people are weird.. your life is NOT over when you have a baby, it is just different. Being 16 doesn't mean you can't be a good mom nor does it mean that ';you haven't experienced anything yet..'; You have clearly experienced sex... what else is there to experience that you can't do with a child..? Drugs.. ? Alcohol...? Sleeping with more than one person...? Things you shouldn't be doing anyway. Good for you for at least loving your child enough to try to make an informed decision based in your child's well-being instead of your own selfish desires. With the support of family, you can be a wonderful mommy. I wouldn't want to do it at 16 myself.. I am 21 and have a 7-week-old... but I would have done it if I had to. Don't have an abortion. I will take your baby if you plan to do that. :) Adoption isn't a horrible route either if you think you can give him/her up. Adopted kids do not end up being abused or left on the streets... those would be foster children. Plus.. if you chose adoption.. YOU would get to choose his/her family. The choice is obviously up to you...if he/she were mine, I would keep him/her without question. Don't let anyone tell you you can't do it because you are young. Good luck to you.
I hope I am not too late in answering this :)
You seem in this question as though you want this little baby in your life. I mean, from the type of question you asked, to defending the fact that your boyfriend and you are ready for this to me shows that you want to have this baby. Your parents would help out, and he is making his own money. Honestly, consider keeping him/her :) You seem like you want to, and as they grow older you'll know you made the right choice. Because from the looks, you're already attached :)
Talk to your mom, and his parents. :)
teen pregnancy is one of the toughest decisions a person makes.
i'm personally against abortion, so this may be biased :|
if you do have the baby, when the child is 6, 10, 18, i'm sure that you will be completely happy and you will be glad that you didn't choose to give it away.
however, haveing a baby is a HUGE responsibility, and if it just is to much, than putting it up for adoption is the only choice. of course, if you do choose to put your child up for adoption, there is always the chance later in life to meet your child.
my friend is adopted and she often meets up with her biological parents :)
goodluck times a thousand xx
If you are more than three months pregnant, i wouldn't advise an abortion. I think it would be traumatic for you -- not sure. These days abortion clinics aren't that easy to find, and when we do find one, we get counseling before we have the procedure.
You and your boyfriend really need to decide what you feel is best in your personal situation. Unfortunately, i just don't know.
As for your emo look, i'm sure you won't be looking this way for the rest of your life (we all change our minds about 100 times about style through the course of a life time, believe me, im old!). Your style has nothing to do with your character or your common sense.
But i can say i wish you all the best, and i hope things work out well for you. Do the right thing for YOU.
sending all best wishes and a few hugs too.
Personally I am against abortion, but whatever you choose is your choice. I am a teen mother of two, I am only 19yrs old my son was born when I was 15. You just need to sit down and think it over, it is very hard to take care of a baby so young. But if you put your mind to it you will be okay. If you ever need to talk just e-mail me. I know we don't know each other but I have been in your shoes before. It can be done just sit and talk with your boyfriend.
Best of luck
sounds like you know what you want and killing a person and giving it away dont sound like its something you will live with so just keep it and be there for your kid. your mom already did her part and now its your turn to do yours as a mother so be a good mom and forget about what people might think and focus in that Lil one that lives inside of you when you hold them for the first time or when they call you mommy for te first time you will see every hell is worth living. good luck to you hun,
who cares how you guys dress or look like youll see that wont matter to your baby he/she will love you two just the same.
I say keep it or give it to a family you know wants a baby but cant have one themselves.
Im pro-choice, but abortion is a very hard thing to go through. Dont let someone push you to it, or do it because your afraid. You'll never forgive yourself for it.
It sounds like you have all the resources to atleast have it and give it to a family.
A lot of churches have files of families that would like a baby, they will let you go through the files and pick what family you want to give the baby to. Thats how my cousins were adopted.
Email me if you want. If you need someone to talk to.
I got pregnant at 17...then 19. I kept both. Sit down with your mom and talk to her. She wont be *pissed* shell be disappointed. Shes your mom. Youve got to give her time to accept it. If you think abortion would break your heart. Dont do it. Im glad to hear you AND your b.f want to take responsibility for your actions. Ok back to the emo thing. There are really some great maternity clothes out there. You never know. Let her help you pick out some pregnancy clothes. After shes done freakin out or if she says something about the way you dress ask her if she can help you because shes been there.
Do what you feel is right. But think about Can you live knowing you killed one of your children knowing you made the choice to have sex and knowing sex might bring a baby? And can you live with the fact of knowing one of your kids is out there there somewhere and you don't know how they are doing or how life turned out for them? I think you made an adult choice before you could handle it and a now there's a child mixed into it and it's not fair to punish him/her because you made a bad choice. Tell your mom and go from there. Good luck.
I think you sound like a very responsible and smart young girl. I can tell that you have given this a lot of thought and I think you should keep the baby. You should be able to have the baby and still finish school. I mean as long as you boyfriend stays in the picture to support the baby and your parents support you then I think you will be fine =)
Good luck with whatever you chose. If you want to talk more just click my advtar and message me.
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