Any advice for a soon to be teenage mother? Anyone who went through the same thing?

where do i go from here. I am roughly 8 weeks pregnan. No one knows except the father and my grandma. The father is also young and typically wants an abortion. My grandma is in full support of me having it though. I would NEVER abort it! but where do i go from here? any advice from someone who has been through the same thing? And will the father come around soon? He doesn't want anything to do with me presently.Any advice for a soon to be teenage mother? Anyone who went through the same thing?
Obviously, he won't. Good job.Any advice for a soon to be teenage mother? Anyone who went through the same thing?
OK so I haven't been in the situation however I do have 3 children of my own and the first was born right before I turned 21 and i felt i was a little young and didn't feel as though i had much to offer it at the time. I stuck it out and ended up leaving his dad when I was 8 months preg because he wouldn't keep a job. If your baby's dad doesn't come around someone will eventually come into your life who will take his place in your heart and your child's. It happened for me and I'm sure it will for you too. Just roll with the punches when it comes to the father. I promise the day that they lay your newborn baby on your stomach in the delivery room will be one of the happiest days of your life. Keep your head up it'll get better...
Find a pregnancy crisis center in your area. Make sure they are pro-life. They will help you with maternity clothing, counseling, things for the baby. They are wonderful. Don't worry about dad. He might just be scared. Think of how you feel, and it is easier for you because you are carrying the baby. I can't answer if he will come around. I applaud you for doing the right thing and brining this baby into the world. You will be much better for it. Stay in school or have your mother homeschool you to get your high school education. You'll need it. Good luck and congratulations.
You need to get a regular ob-gyn and your prenatal vitamins. And I'm not sure wether the father will come around or not some do, some don't. Just remember the important thing is keeping yourself healthy and showing your baby all the love in the world when it gets here. It's not this childs fault his father doesn't want him, but sometimes as they get older they blame themselves so show it all the love and support in the world.
I agree with AM on everything that was stated. I would only add--tell your parents. Even though you are scared of what they may do or say, they can be a great support to you and your baby. Also, I would add that after you get your High School Diploma--DONT STOP THERE. There are all kinds of help to pay for college, especially for single parents--grants and scholarships. You will need a college degree not only a High School Diploma to support yourself and your child.
I was 17 when i got pregnant and was a junior in high school. I didn't tell anyone for about 4 months. I too didn't want to abort my baby. I ended up just sitting down and telling my mom. It was one of the hardest things that happened to mean but to my surprise she was supportive of me. My husband (was my bf at the time) he ended up working nights and watched our daughter during the day so i could finish high school and work after school. It was very hard to have a baby and go to school but if you have a good support group then that really can help. I was lucky to have my bf by my side, there were a couple of other girls that were preg and their bfs left them so it really depends on your own personal situation.
Well, First question you need to ask yourself.... Where am I going to live??? How am I going to support this child?? ( you know the BF ain't going to help) You need to finish school, to get a good job and a roof over your head.


Go and talk to a crisis center for young teens, they may be able to help or steer you in the right direction.


Do you have any relatives or are you parents understanding? It costs alot for diapers, formula,clothing, ext.. for the baby. You need to see a doctor and have good PRENATAL care...


also look into adoption... their are so many loving couples wanting to have a child in this country, but because of all the red tape and lawyers and crap they go over-seas,,, you really have a big decision to make .... and you really need to let both sets of parents know the situation... but the ultimate decision is YOURS.... Good Luck!!
im about2 b a teenage mother too! when i was 9wkz pregnant my boyfriend told me he wanted me to abort (hes young too) nothing would change his mind about me getting an abortion! i always told him that no i was not gona abort he keepd telling me i was and always wanted to take me to abort! we would argue sometimes he wouldn talk to me for a week bcus i didnt want to abort we even broke up! he berly came around at 16wks he told me to forget the abortion and to keep the baby! i was so happy when i heard that from him! but i mean there young they still want to enjoy there freedom i understand that but also we didn get pregnant on our own right so they should be there from the beggining! i knw how u feel cus my mom was the only one there for me when i told her i was pregnant! knw hes lyk another person hes always taken me out to eat always rubbing my stomich and all that! hopefully your babys dad will come around like my boyfriend did! jus dont presure him
I was pregnant at 16 (now I am 35) and my daughter is graduating in two weeks and has been given a full ride academic scholarship to college. The father was never in her life nor paid a dime of child support. I graduated highschool with a 3.68 GPA and finished my B.A. degree. I am now 3rd in the company I work in. My family did not have any money and I had to do it all on my own.





That is the background of my situation...





You have only one choice - don't be selfish! This is no longer about your needs or the sperm donor's needs. This is about the child. You must be willing to sacrifice the next 18 years to give only to your child. You must work hard, study hard, learn everything you must on raising a child, you must give up on your friends/their needs, your need to be loved/in a relationship...everything! You will need to study to be a parent, go to parenting classes, stay up all night with a crying baby then go to school in the morning. For the 1st 10 months you will get NO sleep and yet you will have to demonstrate love/nurturing for the innocent child while continuing school. Somehow you will have to fit working into this schedule because you will be a complete failure if you go on welfare. You did not use protection, you decided to have sex, you are responsible for paying for everything. Do not be a welfare teenage mom, that is disgustingly sad. You will have to raise a child, go to school and then go to college. You will have to find housing, food, clothes, daycare ($100/week). Your task is not easy...so you really need to ask yourself...can you actually do it? Can you give up every selfish desire that you have, give up the next 18 years to do nothing but school, baby/child and work? Are you willing to do it utterly and completely ALONE? Are you smart enough, capable enough, secure enough to do it and actually do it right?





If not - then I would advise abortion first and adoption next. There are to many uneducated worthless teenage parents out there raising a society of thugs. If you can't do it and do it right - save society by not doing it at all.
Good for you for not choosing abortion! It may not seem like it now, but you CAN do it! There are schools that will let you take your baby with you to get an education, but whatever you do stay in school! In the future you will be glad that you did. Use your resources, friends, family, people close to you. I'm 23 and a single mom, the father pretty much isn't in his life so I know how that is, even if the father doesn't come around you can do it on your own, you can't make him want to be in his childs life.





And about the woman saying all this BULL about welfare: That's what it's there for, if someone truly needs it why not take advantage of it. Yes there are people abusing it, but for people that truly need it, it's a lifesaver. It's not ';doing society a favor'; by aborting a child. What horrible advice to give someone. WIC, Medicaid, and food stamps are something that you can look into, especially being young, it could help you out alot. Good luck and stay strong, you can do it!