Help!!Teenage parenting advice please?

Okay im going to try to make a long long story short. My boyfriend is 22 and i am 19 and we have been taking care of his 15 almost 16 year old nephew and its been hell. Um his mom just picked up and left one day. His dad who isn't his biological father doesn't want him. My boyfriend sister who's in her 30s took him in for less then two years and gave him up. So my boyfriend took him in because it was either that or give him to the government. Grandparents aren't so healthy so that's out of the question. But anyways he always has that i am the victim attitude. Hes gone out and gotten drunk in public. And my boyfriends parents are pastors of the strict Pentecostal church and its a small town every one knows every one. Yea you can only imagine what that was like. I know hes a teenager but is there any advice on what to do when he acts up because my boyfriend and i don't know what to do any more. A 22 and a 19 year old shouldn't have to be taking care of a 15 year old. it would greatly be appreciatedHelp!!Teenage parenting advice please?
the only things really that you can do is give it to God and pray without ceasing for Gods will to e done. sometimes we look to the world to give us answers when we dont know what to do. it sounds to me that he is trying to get attention and he is going to get it good or bad. i can empathize with you as i have worked with troubled youth (teens) before and it is not easy. sometimes the only way that they are going to learn is by making enough bad mistakes, to learn from them so they dont repeat. being a parent is difficult enough but where he is so close to your age, it is possible that he doesn't respect the situation enough to care what you and you bf think. tough love is probly the best thing for him, and hopefully he will learn from his mistakes. i will pray for you and your situation.


best of luck to you all.Help!!Teenage parenting advice please?
Be strict with him. ignoring his attitude and issues may be easier but it makes things harder in the long run. Ground him set boundrys enforce them. Sounds like everyone else just tries to do things the easy way then gives up. He expects you to do the same and so thinks he can do what he wants. Explain to him that your home is his last refuge against the system. Find information on the worst of the worst when it comes to that sort of thing. When he acts up too bad. if you're in a small town you can probably get a cop to come scare the crap out of him or possibly even lock him in a holding cell for 24 hours. They can do that without charging him with anything. Make him realize the world can be harsh and suck and that you're trying to help him but don't let him think you're his friend or that you're going to shelter him.





I used to be a massive screw up.. so were a lot of my friends, and one of my ex's .. I'm always on IM .. im good at being a ***** and know how to get inside people's head's if you want detailed Ideas on how to show him tough love I'm happy to help.