Teenage Pregnancy, advice please?

My cousin has recently gotten pregnant. We just found out yesterday, and she is one month along. She is only 14 years old. She is planning on keeping the baby. I know that thier are other people out there who have already gone through this, and I was wandering if anyone had any advice for her. The father of the baby knows, and says that he wants to be involved, but she doesn't know if he will really be there when it counts. If there are any guys out there who have gotten a girl pregnant when they were teens, I would really like to here your story... Thank you all at Y!A so much!Teenage Pregnancy, advice please?
Here's our story (to be fair, it's better to ask for the whole story, not just the guy's side, you might get some stupid comments about how it's the girls fault because she didn't have a condom etc)





I'm 17, I have a fiance, I have a daughter, I have a flat, I don't live off the state, I pay my way like every other responsible mother not in parenthood for the freebies given away from the government. I haven't thrown my life away, in fact my daughter has brought my life together. We're doing great as a family, we're not planning anymore kids anytime soon, but we do well and we've got a beautifully healthy little girl.





Before her, I danced, worked and fought with my mother. Now I still fight with my mother (over custody), I work, I look after my daughter and I go to school.





I live with my fiance who is also 17 and we have a daughter going through the terrible twos. I'm a manic depressive that cuts and I'm a teenage mum. The moment my mum found out I was pregnant she kicked me out of the house.





I won't lie and say my daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me, because she's not, but I don't regret having her and wouldn't change my life for the world. After taking six months out from my training as a ballet dancer, I went back to class, it means I don't get to spend as much time at home as I would like to. But I'm determined to break every stereotype there is about teenage pregnancy.





I go to a school for elite athletes to help fit my study around training and my daughter goes to the creche at my fiance's college, at lunch time my fiance takes her home and I meet them there and we all have lunch together, when my fiance goes back to college after lunch, my daughter goes with him, then I pick my daughter up after school.





I am at the schools sixth form studying chemistry and biology at A-Level and history at AS-Level and my ultimate aim is to study physiotherapy and sports development and coaching and then open up my own sports academy eventually. I really want to make something out of my life, not just for me but for my daughter too.





My mum, who has shown no interest in myself or my daughter since she was born is now worried about what effect my dancing is having on my daughter and is trying to get custody of her, saying that she will have a better life with her rather than living with her own parents. My mum is sure that my daughter spending a lot of time at creche instead of being with her parents is detrimental to her education and life, while I may agree that spending more time with her would probably be better all round I refuse to give up my life because I am a mother.





My daughter is a happy healthy baby who always has a smile on her face. I am worried that the creche will see her first step or hear her first word and my fiance and I won't get too, but it's a chance I'm willing to take. Surely having an elite athlete and a graphic designer for parents is better for your education that living with your grandparent?





I'm a better mother than my mother ever once and at least I can be sure my daughter will never have an old mother stood at the school gates that she has to be embarrassed about being seen with.





A mother is a mother no matter how old they are and we all.Teenage Pregnancy, advice please?
I think its amazing that she is willing to keep the lil beauty inside her…but she is pretty young…I’m not saying that she should def. Do this or def. Do that…please understand that!





I’m just saying that since she’s so young it might be good for her to consider adoption…there are many many families waiting for a little one of their own…and since she’s so young caring for the baby might be to much…notice I said might though…because I think athough I’d be hard if she has good family that will back her up its NOT IMPOSSIBLE!!! By anymeans!!





Just support her lovingly and make sure she knows that you are there for her!  She’ll really need your support in the next few months! Because she is going to wrestle with the though of abortion. It’s a scary thing to have a baby so young!! But like I said with good family behind her she can totally do it!!!!





:]]] I’m so excited for her!



O.k well i'm 19 and a teen mom i got pregnant at 18 and although not as young as 14 its still way to young. i would tel your cousin to expect her life to change ALOT,mine has and although i love my daughter i have to be real and say that in alot of ways my life hasn't changed for the better. Are her family supportive? because she will need them. In my case my boyfriend has stuck around (for the most part) which i know is rare. I also have a friend who got pregnant at 13 and had the baby at 14, her situation was very difficult so i won't get into to it but i will say that your cousin needs to make sure she can take of the baby when it comes to it in EVERY way. But...its not all bad i guess, i hope she plans to finish school because that is her ticket to a shot at life. My daughter is my world but its so hard sometimes i find myself crying because i can't cope, and it will force your cousin to grow up super quick. Also you need to give her support and not make her feel like she's being judged, i'll say that was the hardest part for me.