Stop shouting, start talking. If this behaviour is out of the ordinary, consider if this could be a plea for attention. What did he need the money for? Find out all the facts you can before you label him delinquentAdvice on teenage problem,s?
Has he admitted his guilt? Yes.
Can there be any doubt that it was him? No.
Then he must repay his debt. The obvious way is reduced pocket money until his debt is paid off but you could let him earn it by doing household chores etc. Decide on a sum for a particular job.
You will find the police to be completely useless, they won't even smack his hand and he will have escaped.
Under no circumstances should he get away with it, he will only repeat the offence.
Should he not co-operate have him wear mittens in the home. Tied on of course.
you threattened police action to your own son 4 a couple of dollars? what kind of freakin parent are you? *** out!!!!
sorry i'm just really wanted to say the f word!!!!
well dear
just give him pocket money each day
when every a kid becomes broke he thinks of these ways
so please be good parents for your kids
dont let them do this, by keeping their pocket full, i dont mean that give him alot but give at least 5 or 10 dollars a day
if your economical condition is good.
when a normally good child goes bad it is better to get to the root of the problem rather than alienate him further by 'readign the roti act'. threatening him with police action aslos seems a bit extreme
let it cool down then sit alone with ur son. apologise for the extreme reaction and then try to get to the bottom of it.u may find he stole the money coz he was coerced, maybe sth he wanted and was not allowed to buy, bullying, etc. acknowledge his goodness before u begin.
i wd say sth like: 'the other night we all got very upset and i may have said things all wrong. u are normally such a good boy and this theft shocked me very much. i love u and wd like to say am sorry for my reaction and wd like to understand why u took the money'
also no matter if he clams up or tells all, reiterate ur love and let him know that he is free to discuss the issue later but that u will not tolerate any more stealing
rent out the moive scum (its pretty old)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scum_(movie)
Get him to watch.
In particualr make sure he seens the rape and suicide scenes several times.
And maybe give something of his to charity
if he has a tv take it a way an things like that but sit him down an ask him why did he want the money x
dont fly off at him, it will just cause more problems, you should let him know gently what he has done is very wrong and that it wont be tolerated.
he needs to know that you mean business but you can relate to what he is going through and that most importantly you understand him.
steal it back
From what you say, this sounds like out of the ordinary behaviour. Talk to him (calmly) %26amp; find out why he did what he did - does he have an allowance, by the way?
Then, once the 'issues' have been sorted out %26amp; solutions agreed upon, then ask him to 'pay back' the money by way of additional chores around the house - be firm (nothing to easy) but fair (work out what each task is worth %26amp; be realistic).
Threatening police action is very extreme. He will think you don't care about him at all to be able to do that to him, and his behaviour will get worse.
Talk calmly to him and give him a chance to explain why he took it. It might just be one of those things. Maybe he hangs out with someone whose parents give them lots of money, or someone who earns a few quid from a job. Leaving money hanging around in a jar is a serious temptation to any teenager, I know I would have considered taking it and told myself I was just 'borrowing' it.
And apologise for threatening him with the police. You love him and care about him, and want to make sure he's OK.
Start by asking what he needed the money for? In case he is being bullied by others to get money.
I would then stop his pocket money if he gets any until the money is paid back, or make him do jobs around the house until he has earned enough for it to be paid back.
Threatening is good, but know that if he does it again, any threats you made this time you will have to carry out.
a bit harsh
you probebly dont want to hear this, but most teens i know, including myself, when we r skint will take abit of money from our parents. It may seem like stealing but its an easy way to get cash.
If he hasn't done this before and didn't do this as a child there could be another reason for the stealing..drugs...bullying...smoking all manner of things.
We reacted the same way with our son and he went completely off the rails.
Perhaps when you all get the time sit down with him and talk to him about what is happening in his life that would make him feel the need to take this money.
Suggest that if he wants more money you'll help him find a job.
Good kids don't usually start stealing for no reason.
Oh and move money to a safe place, I'm not suggesting that he will do this again but if there is a sinister reason for it then all the shouting in the world will not stop the stealing or threats of the police because let's face it the police really don't have the power to do anything anymore.
GL.
It difficult with teenagers and no one knows the best thing to do in situations like this. all i can suggest is talk to him find out what he needed the money for, does he get pocket money? explain that stealing is wrong and ask him to come to you if he wants money.
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