Can someone please help me with advice?
Thank you so much.Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
I understand your stance on abortion and I feel the same way. You should look into adoption. There are closed and open adoptions and many loving stable adults that really want a child. Keeping the child is the other option. I am sure you would be able to give them lots of love and support. Children are expensive! That is why maybe adoption would be the best thing for the child to give them the best life possible. Good Luck!Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
Good Luck! :) i think you have already decided that you want to keep it, and you just want to do whats right for your baby. Depeneding on where you live, you should get baby bonus, and maybe mothers allowance once you turn 18. Im in the same situation, 8 months pregnant and im 17. If your boyfriend is still in school maybe he could get a part time job? It might be hard for you to work and have a newborn at the same time, but if your parents are willing to help im sure you could do it :)
you sound like you know what you want. keep the baby or otherwise adoption if you think you could give up what you carried for that many months. be strong and have the father help. it is totally worth it once the baby is here. i was in college full time with both my pregnancies and so far i had one and the other on the way and it isn't as hard as people think. you can do it! :) good luck
Good luck! You sound determine to do everything you can for your baby. Make the decision based on your own feelings and no one elses. xxx
It will all work out. Trust me! I had a daughter 11 days after my 16th birthday. It was very hard. I had no help from the father. My parents helped somewhat, but made sure not to take the responsibility away from me. I had never considered abortion. That was not an option for me. Now I am 29 and she is 13 and everything is great. It was a hard road, but so worth it. I am now married and pregnant with number 4. We have a great family and are financially stable. So many times when I first became a mother I really questioned how well my life would ever be able to turn out, but now I would not change it for the world. She is a great kid and I can not imagine my life without her!
It sounds like you want to keep your baby. Go with what your heart tells you first, because if you get an abortion out of pressure you will regret it your whole life. If you feel like you can handle your baby then why not. Murder should be the last option. Just be strong and do what you have to do to care for your child. Its the responsible, unselfish thing to do seeing as how the baby is already here with a beating heart. When you look into your baby's eyes you'll know you made the right decision ; ) Good luck and congrats!
depending on your state, there are a TON of places that you can go to for help, im not saying you want to live off the state and taxpayers money for the rest of your life. but if you need government assistance until you can get on your feet, that is something else you should look into. ALSO there is alot that the government and private companys do for single mothers and that is another option for you to look into if you are interested in going to a form of college or furthering your education.
im not a teenager, im 21 and i am about to be a single mother and i have been looking into such sources because i did decide to keep my baby. i think its commendable that you want to try and make things work for you and the baby :)
things will be very hard and if you think you can handle being a single mother, chances are you can! and you seem very mature in knowing that you dont have the financial means to support your child alone. It seems though, that you do have some kind of plan for how to support the child :D kudos to that!!!
Good luck and if you would like to chat further or need help about where to look for the assistance i mentioned u can email me through my profile on here.
OH boy this question really has me worked up!
I was in your same situation only... six months ago.
Please please please, if you care at all about this baby, DO NOT give it up for adoption. s/he will end up in the WORST of places. They will grow up in a terrible world of abuse and drugs or molestation and rape from their foster parents. They will be born and later when they find out that they were adopted, they will know that you did not love them enough to keep them. they will be so f***ed up with that thought I can't even explain! I have known so many people and read so many stories across the web of people that were adopted. they chose abortion because they CARED enough to keep their unborn child safe from growing up with drug addiction like they did. Your child will always wonder who their birth parents were and what they did WRONG to not make you love them enough to keep them. they will always think, gee, i bet my birth parents wouldn't abuse me like this. if they knew me now, im sure they would love me and give me a good home, but no! you chose to dump it off to some insane pedophile home. Look it up. There are WAY too many babies being born this way. They are ALL suffering, waiting for good homes that will never come. they will just be stuck in an orphanage, being looked over like prospective puppies. if you read harry potter, look at voldemort. he was an orphan. do you see what im getting at?
I'm not condemning you, I am opening you up to the real truth that is adoption. People who adopt are selfless, but not always a good parent. People who make a child JUST to give it away are disgusting.
I didn't chose that route because I cannot imagine seeing my child being beaten and abused until they start doing heroine or meth, get pregnant and start the cycle anew. It's depressing. I love children and I care about their wellbeing.
Your parents know that is the BEST option. You realise the economy is horrible, right? You will never be able to support it. ****, my husband and I can't even support OURSELVES. We live on HIS income ONLY. If we would've brought a child into this world, she would be starving and naked. We only make 600 a month, 505 goes to rent. 58 goes to electricity, and 26 goes to renters insurance (i don't want a fire to ruin our life) We get 160 a month in food stamps and that's it! We cannot afford anything! your baby won't have any better of a life.
I know i might sound mean, but I really am not, and its hard to give words real meaning on the internet, but if you'd like to talk to me further you can add me on yahoo messenger. I'm bluebloodedelf .
I am not heartless, and I jumped back and forth on whether we should keep it or not, and I'm glad we didn't. I know we couldnt have made it with one. Most places I want to work you have to be 18. that's the real reality. you're not old or experienced enough to make good money and you can't go to school pregnant. Morning sickness will kill you. If you wait, and i strongly suggest you don't, abortion will be harder. all you do is take a few pills and you get a period. all done.
otherwise your whole life will be hell for a long time. unfortunately the world was not made for us young people. we cannot get credit, we have no credit, we're not old enough, they think we're stupid, car insurance is ****!!!! expensive. you have to be 18 to rent a place.
i've read posts from older mothers and they know it will never WORK out. it's hard enough raising a baby when milk is 4 dollars a gallon. you have to be RICH. As far as the father goes.... I've seen way too many single mothers with this situation. i don't care what he says, they will leave you for someone else. you'll miss the 'prom' whatever because youll be feeling like a big whale, and he'll be too embarassed to take you. you'll break up and tada! single mother washing dishes for 6.55 an hour, starving baby, using up welfare, can't afford life, depressed. seriously please. You're not in my situation and i beg you not to experience it. being rock bottom poor sucks. I don't want to lecture you and if you have any questions or want to talk about my experience with morning sickness, hormones, mood swings, anything about abortion, maybe just questions, I won't force you, ill just tell you what im going through.
I'm a really friendly person who is experienced in a lot of topics and I care about childrens well-being.
so add me on yahoo: bluebloodedelf
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