Advice for a teenage mom-to-be.?

I'm 16 years old. my boyfriend and i have been together 3 years, and 2 weeks ago i found out i'm pregnant. my due date is January 11, just days before my 17th birthday. I'm currently living with, and engaged to my boyfriend Nik. We're living with a family friend since neither of us are able to get an apartment, and both home environments aren't a kind of place we want to raise our baby. I'm terrified. not only because i'm about to take on a huge responsibility, but when nik and i first started dating I got pregnant the first time, i carried the baby 17 weeks, and had a miscarriage. I'm worried i'm still not healthy enough to carry a healthy child. any advise is greatly welcomed. i'm not looking for critism, just helpful advice maybe from people who have been there. MEN TOO! my boyfriend is clueless %26amp; i'd like to know what to expect from him.Advice for a teenage mom-to-be.?
Well congrats on the baby!!


I gt pregnant at 17 and had my darling baby boy


when i was 18. At least you are going to the doctors office.


I NEVER went to the doctor for any vitamins. i had no


idea when my due date was. all i knew was that it was in


march. i would suggest eating lots ( and i mean lots)


of vegetables and fruits. its whathelped me out to carry


a healthy baby.Advice for a teenage mom-to-be.?
Well to start off, kudos for taking responsibility for your actions. I know it will be hard for you to raise a child at 17 but you did the right thing by not getting an abortion. I, not being ever pregnant, find it difficult to give any specific advise to you and your boyfriend. Raise the baby with love. Raise the baby in a nice/clean environment. Raise the baby around family. I hope this helped.
maybe you where too young to carry the baby the first time. you can just try and be careful. as for the leaving situation i dont know what your family situation is but if you have any family members that have a better living environment you should go live with them. you need to do what is best for your baby. good luck!
i got pregnant when i was 17 and gave birth when i was 18 you should finish school thats what i did it helps you out a lot for the future to get a job and to give your baby what you need. about your miscarriage maybe you where to young and it wasent ment to be but its common for 1st time pregnancy to have a miscarriage just take care of yourself take your vitamins everyday make sure you go to the doctor.
Whew that's a tough one. If you haven't already (and it sounds like not from what you have said) go see a Dr. they can help you determine if you are healtly and guide you to proper nutrition, vitamins etc. needed for proper developement of the baby. As for what to expect from your boyfriend, well no one can predict that. It depends a lot on his personality.
oh its going to be fine,


go to the doctor to check if your healthy !


and if you know for a fact you just cant take the baby because your young and stuff then you should give the baby to someone that cant have babys ! like in the movie Juno she givies it to a woman that cant have kids.


well anyways hope things go well if you keep the baby.


goodluck.





godbless./


%26amp; happy 4th of july
i am also a teen mom to be. I think that if you know you are not in a enviroment to raise a baby then u should think about adoption. Many of people go thru this everyday and they have the same doubts. but those that choose to have the baby get thru it. there r so many programs that will help you. You and your boyfreind need tro sit down and talk and see if u guys r truly ready to handle this big responsiblity
make sure u go to all ur docs appointment take care of urself as in eat healthy, try not to carry anything heavy start walkin alot and apply for food stamps they wud give them to u tell him to get a lil job and when he turns 18 apply for section a cheap apts and its ur u can raise ur baby the way u want too raise it not by others ppl influence, good luck girl
Ah, I'd say you both should look for a home soon. I don't think raising your kid in a family friends house is going to work out! All I have to say is, get a lot of lemon drops ;D
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watch juno
You will no doubt receive a lot of rude comments, but I would commend you for taking responsibility for your actions.


I'm not going to lie to you. This is going to change your life. It is not an easy job being a mommy or daddy. There are late nights and early mornings. No time to or for yourself. You now will have a baby that requires your and your boyfriends complete attention. You will make mistakes as you raise your child, but learn from them. And above all love your child and put him/her first.





Just because you had a previous miscarriage, does not mean that you will have another one. No one knows what causes miscarriages, sometimes. Don't overdue it, stay calm and don't lift anything heavy.


Best of luck
First off I wont judge you like many other people will. I know already that with all that your going through is a lot and overwhelming for you and your fiance. Clearly both of your familys have a lot even going for them. I'm sorry that you two have to go through so much at this time. But a child is a lot, I'll tell you that first even though I'm sure you already know. But also a child can be so rewarding. A child can even bring a positive energy to the family that it will grow in. It's very important to stay healthy and I could tell you many things but it's better if you hear it from a docter so that it will be more accurate. Health is a very serious issue. All you can do at this point is to learn to be nurturing parents as I'm sure you two will be. Find books at the library, brochures anything you can to learn more. There's many sites that you can even search on google. Try to gain as much knowledge on the several main things when it comes to a baby. Also a good enviroment is a wonderful key. I hope this helped and best of luck to you guys =)
How long since the m/c? Although lots of people have a healthy baby straight after a m/c. As long as you eat well and look after yourself, get plenty of rest and dont stress im sure you will be fine. Ive had 2 m/c and now pregnant with 3rd (I have a daughter already) and have found what will be will be. I wont lecture about age or anything like that cos lets face it we are living in a world where the most respectable adults abuse their children and should not have them so im sure you will do a great job! As long as your child is brought up in a loving environment you cant go far wrong! Good luck, hope all goes well!
try not to stress over things because the stress is not good for the baby. just take things one day at a time and make sure you keep up on all your prenatal appointments. take your prenatal vitamins and eat a well balanced diet. do not over exercize and do not lift heavy things. try and stay positive! yes, its totally possible to have a miscarriage and then afterwards carry a healthy baby to term. As for your boyfriend, I'm not sure. Men are pretty clueless about the whole pregnancy and baby thing, but it will get better in time. He probably is waiting for you to tell him what he should or can be doing to help. Best of luck and congrats.
i would say go and get counseling...but i did that in your position and they were really pushy about trying to get me to give my baby up to adoption.





you and your fiance need to get some rather high paying jobs(yes, it'll be hard to find because you haven't graduated highshool,and therefore, don't have a diploma.)but, they're around.some waitresses get $100 dollars in tips a night, depending on where you work.





you've got 5-6 months to save up enuogh money to get a little apartment,get ready for baby(i had a big family and we got allot of stuff from the baby shower,if not, you'll have to buy it yourself,if you know any friends that have kids,they might give you hand me down clothes.)but with you bolth working it's totally accomplishable...to help you save, you can get wic,foodstamps ect...go to your social services office and ask..(and don't be ashamed,EVERYONE starts small, even those people who are critisizing you, and you're only bieng a freeloader, and taking advantage, if you quit your job, just so you can be lazy, and collect foodstamps ect.. asking for help is a good thing, it's better than letting you and your child be homeless and starving. YOU have to do what YOU have to do to keep your family safe, and healthy, who cares what anyone else thinks.)you wont have to stay on assistance for ever, only a few months until you get on your feet and get settled.OR if it's an option, you could move into someone's parent's house.





you need to go to an ob regularily,to check on the health of you and the little one.they can help you stay healthy to carry him/her full term.nutrition is VERY important,start taking vitamins and eating healthier, don't lift anything heavy or do crazy things,like jump up and down.it's possible to have a full term baby, even after you'ved had a m/c.i did.





i wont judge you...i had my 1st at 17 and we're just fine now, but yes we had a rocky beggining, but the road will smooth out.





';LET HE, WHO IS WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE';
I know how you feel. I got pregant for the irst time when I was 18. I was scared to death, but now my son is 16 and I have six more kids. (quadruplets. Alot harder than teenage pregnancy) I would sugest going to the doctors regularly. Accept any and all help from family and friends and everything will be fine. Finish school get a job. I suggest that your fiance does the same. He has to be involved as much as you. My husband and I didn't even get married until my son was two, but he stayed with me and it mad all the diffrence. Also I suggest asking about parenting classes and such at local hospitals. Bring Nik with you because he needs to learn how to be a good father and he needs to understand how he has to help you. Everthing will be fine.


Good Luck,


G.J.
Hey. I just thought I'd let you know that I am in the exact same place as you. My due date is on February 11 though and that will be about two months before I turn 17. The first thing you need to do is start taking your prenatal vitamins. Make sure you get some with Iron it them. The second thing you need to do (preferably today) is schedule a doctor's appointment. The doctor can tell you everything you need to know and it's very important that you follow everything he says. And maybe your body just wasn't ready to carry a pregnancy the first time around. And on the boyfriend situation, I think that if he was fine with it the first time he'll be accepting this time too. Especially if you've been dating for three years. So I think you'll be fine, you just have to take care of yourself, especially because you have a history of miscarriage. Make sure you tell the doctor about that too. Keep me informed. :D
Just make sure you get to the Dr. if you havnt already so you can get started on pre-natal vitamins and be under a dr's care. If you dont have insurance, apply for medicaid immediately. You can also apply for WIC to get food for your nutrition while your pregnant and also formula when the baby is born (which gets expensive). If your not going to have a baby shower, I would suggest trying to get hand-me-downs or shop at a 2nd hand store to get good deals. Finish school (hs and if you choose college or a trade school) and get a stable job so you can be financially stable. you can get Daycare assistance to help pay for daycare. Good luck! It will be tough at first until you guys get on your feet and become financially stable, but there are so many programs to help you and it will be worth it in the end!