to be entirely honest..
u cant stop her.
unless u lock her up in the house with no1 but you..
and i suppose u would not do that so lets look at reality.
to be honest...since u cant stp her seeing her boyfriend if she does have one etc then make sure she knows that ur there for her ..
that is all u can do...i mean..any other ideas? its all about trust and when she will want to talk about stuff she will,when she is ready...until then its worse to push her into it...that would show that ur desperate to get into her life,and i bet ur just trying to be a good mom....but she will not see it that way..
p.s kissing is not bad,as long as she knows that boundaries..Need advice on teenage daughter.......?
im 16 i use to date older men and lie to my mom. i use to date older men. i mean she is 13 of corse she already had a kiss. she don't want u to be snoppy she is afraid of wht u will say. and she wants to fit in. she may be hngin with the wrong pple look how many teens are prego she maybe the next
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Firstly, if you logged in as your daughters on her myspace you need to stop doing that and give her some privacy to live her own life.
Now, I'm 15 and I don't tell my mum everything because it's just weird to talk to your mum about some things (especially because my family would tease me) and it can be a bit embarrassing. I never told my mum about my first kiss because I knew she'd make a big thing of it.
She could also be lying because she's scared about what you will think, whether she is allowed a boyfriend or not.
Also, the chances are she hasn't kissed a boy and was lying on the survey because of peer pressure and all that.
Don't confront her about it; she will talk to you about it when she needs you, but for now you should respect her privacy and give her space to grow and make her own mistakes.
Because shes a teenager and they dont think its cool to talk to there mothers about anything. Well shes going to regret that decision trust me i was there not to long ago. Teenagers think they know whats best for them there old enough to drive and they ';know everything';. She isnt going to tell you chances are the only time she may come to talk to you is when one of these boys break her heart. Theres really nothing you can do unless you want to ground her from the myspace for lying but then shed know you spied on her and she would rebel even more you really just have to wait it out because the more you discipline her the more shes going to want to do things she shouldnt. Dont get me wrong when she messes up still discipline her. Just try to wait it out think about it this way your the most important to her and one of these days your the first person shes going to want to go to. Sorry i couldnt really help that much but good luck
Hello,
Ok look I know this is hard, but this is what teenagers do, not all but most teen girls are embarrassed about talking to their parents about boys and these strange feelings they have. If she really needs you I trust she will go to you for help. You need to be more open with her show that you can share things and don't ask her again again about boys. Things that will put her off talking to you is if you will make a big deal out of it or especially if you tell people she has a boyfriend. I know that put m,e of telling my mum, as much as I loved her I knew she would tell my family and make a deal out of it. So don't worry about it, maybe ask now or then whats her boyfriend called or if she would like to ask him over, act like this is no big deal. Also keep calm, all teenagers have crushes and kisses nothing to worry about, its better you open with her so if she needs to she can go to you for advice. Good luck kerry x
Are you friends with her on her myspace, or are you logging in to see what she's saying? If it's the latter, then that's a little odd. Maybe she can sense that you're not ready for the whole ';boy thing';, so she just doesn't tell you. And it's just a kiss (maybe), it's not really all that harmful.
Pick your battle. You can choose to confront her or you can choose to just keep trying to talk to her about it. You're the parent here.
She lied for the same reason I never told my parents about my love life, I didn't feel like I could talk to them about it and to a certain extent I was embarrassed.
If I was you don't mention anything about her myspace page but just start telling her about when you were her age and the boys you were into and kissed, then ask her if there are any boys she likes. This to me is a trust issue that you need to work on and you need to start off slow. If she starts to tell you stuff that freaks you out DON'T preach at her like my dad did to me, that is a sure way to get a kid to shut down on you.
Maybe she was lying on the MySpace -- she probably didn't want to look inexperienced and awkward.
Did you specifically ASK her if she's kissed a guy? If not, then how is she lying? :-) Kids will be extremely literal when it suits them to answer a question -- you just have to know which questions to ask. And maybe she doesn't WANT to talk to you about it. Honestly, what could she say? ';I kissed a guy at so-and-so's party!'; How is that information helpful to you? You're getting so worked up over a stupid MySpace survey, I'm sure she's leery of telling you ANYTHING for fear of you going ballistic!
Let's face it -- you know she's a teenager, you know that, if she's a normal kid, she's going to be interested in guys. Keep a close eye on her activities, where she's going, who she's going with, continue to maintain appropriate supervision, and don't be afraid to talk to her about sex. If you aren't comfortable talking about sex with her, try watching ';Secret Life of the American Teenager'; together and talk about it -- i.e., let her talk about it, and YOU listen.
Don't panic. You'll get through this!
How old is she? She is proabably afraid you will freak out on her if she told you the truth. Then again she may just be putting that stuff on there and not even doing that stuff. Peer pressure is a b**** and jsut gets worse every school year. And even though you told her that she can tell you anything she may think, ';yea she is just saying that to get me to tell her stuff and when i do i am going to be in trouble.'; she will come around one day.
well have a sit down talk with her, tell her whether not she is in to boys or not she should knows this for when she is in to boys.
and tell her how you feel, be honest. tell her you trust her but you have heard stories and you don't want those things to happen to her. tell her you think you might be over reacting and might have more moments like that but she should know how you feel.
tell her everything you think she should know tell her what happened to you. be honest with her and she will be honest with you. if she is not then at the very least you know you tried you best and hardest.
im a 14 year old .im a teenager too and even if i was in her place i would have lied too cause teens know that parents will not like it if we get boyfriends.just relax,take it easy.she is grown up and she can handle it just like most of kids her age.everyone in her school must be having one and its alright to have one.
and ya you are getting worried that she is not ready for all this.
why? its her life and she is ready to have a boy!its just you who thinks she is still a little baby.
JUST CAUSE YOU ARE NOT READY DOSE NOT MEAN SHE IS NOT READY.
let her live her life!
she lies to you cause she knows you wont appreciate it.and its not cool to talk about these things to moms and dads,it feels stupid.
you may not understand what it feels like.its like talking to her about how you and your husband made her?
how would you feel?
and im sorry if you thing im like shouting....but im actually writing it like im talking calmly so dont think im being rude.
Because she's worried of what you might think.
Parents don't want their little girls to have boyfriends and the children know that.
So they are scared of what you might say. She's probably under pressure by all of her friends having boyfriends and kissing boys. But she's stuck because she probably knows that you don't want her to have a boyfriend.
It would help a little bit if we knew her age, but I understand why you wouldn't put that out there, though.
She is probably just nervous and doesn't want you in her business. You just have to be nice and promise you won't say or do anything.
But she has to understand that you were also he age once and that you know what she's going through.
Hope this helps but I'm not sure.
it might be that she doesn't want you to know because she's afraid that you will be mad or that you would be in her business all the time. she might feel like you would look down on her for it. or she might be smart and know that your not ready for the boy thing, so she doesn't want to tell you.
i can see what you mean but i suppose its kinda a privacy thing, not the sort of thing a lot of girls would want to talk to parents about. it could also be that she answered yes because she felt under pressure from her peers, she might actually be telling you the truth.
Its better than her liking girls, isnt it? My first ';boyfriend'; was in 1st grade. Dont make her quit boys- just help her understand the rules of having a boyfriend. (You have to meet him and his parents, no being behind closed doors at home, you have to know where shes going on dates, etc.) Just go with it. It will all work out.
she's probably afraid that you'll react the way you just reacted.
Just tell her that it's ok to like boys, but you're not sure if you're comfortable with her dating quite yet.
even though im a teenage boy she dosent want you to be soo personal with her buisness and maybe she though you would never find out
maybe she lied on myspace survey ..And I would lie to you too if you snooped up my butt and invaded my myspace page. Let the kid breathe .
she knows your not happy with it so shes going to keep it from you, she maybe thinks it would hurt you.
It makes me wonder, what else she could be lying about.
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