I am in a group of ';friends';, there are 6 of us including myself. In my school we are considered the preps... recently, there has been a few bumps in the road between me and one other girl, I will name Becky i dont want to give out her real name... To sum it up, Becky owes me $40 and it's been 3 weeks since she was supposed to pay me back and still hasn't. Another girl, ';Ruby';, was telling me that she understood my point and was agreeing with me and I just find out today that she was lieing and telling me she agreed to shut me up from a note. I feel like those 2 girls talk about me behind my back. I am sometimes ignored... other days when one of them isn't there they are suddenly talking to me more.
Basically, I just want some advice whether or not you think these are true friends. Teenage girls can be extremely difficult and petty and i think that the girls i hang out with are. I know im going to highschool soon, i just want to know if i have true friends. I just need ADVICE!!! thanksI just need some advice involving teenage girls and friends. :/?
you already know they are not true friends. you putt he word friends in quotes in your question. money tears everyone apart, not just teenage girls.
good luck, hopefully you can just remove yourself from these people to prevent the problem for further escalating. i dont think you will ever get your money back sorry to say. just forget it and move on with others who are more truely your friend.I just need some advice involving teenage girls and friends. :/?
if you dont solve this porblen now your ';clique';(if u wanna call it that) will break up and then you'll hate each other
about the other problems :becky nextime she need money tell her your out after you ';lent her '; $40
and as for Ruby ask her and look for signs shes lying like no eye contact or fidjity
just saying
no way are they true. they would rather be nasty to you and ignore you just to fit in with someone? then be your friend when they have no one to impress?
please, save yourself. you deserve better.
tell them omg r u guys talking about me behind my back and say the truth or i will walk or go with ur gut feeling and if u feel that they r 4 sure then just get frendz that r more like u
No these are not true friends. I would look for some other friends.
they are not your true friends.
meet some new ones :)
Aight hunni, middleschool drama huh?
Well let me tell you this, more than likely those ';friends'; won't be your friends once you get into highschool. You will see them for what they really are you know.
All you need to do is confront these girls and tell them that it's not cool for them to talk about you behind your back. At the same time, you need to stop talking about that other girl behind her back, it just creates a never-ending cycle.
Just keep your head up, and you will eventually see who your real friends are. Real friends stand by your side through whatever, and real friends might talk about you to another one of your friends, but they do it out of concern. You just need to distinguish what is gossip from concern.
Friday, January 8, 2010
What should I do?? advice please?? teenage girls and guys?
ok so there's this guy jakob who me and him r friends and sometimes it seems like he likes me but i cant really tell because he's very very shy about girls, he's never had a gf, never asked anyone out, doesnt get asked out very often, and just doesnt really respond to that kinda stuff. well at lunch i was sittin wit my friends who r a couple years older than me (we're freshman, and the girls are juniors) and they went over to his table and asked him if he'd go to homecoming with me but i was telling him to ignore them cuz i didnt want to ask him and i didnt want to put him on the spot in front of his friends, so i'm guessing he got mixed signals because i was telling him to ignore them and they were asking him, and he said he'd think about it and then we walked away. the rest of the day he kind of avoided looking me in the eye and talking to me, so tomorrow i want to talk to him and i'm not sure what to say. what do u think i should do? should i ask him to the dance or tell him that my friends were messing around? one of his buds knows that i like him but he hasnt told him cuz he's cool like that lol buut i'm not sure what to do... advice please? sorry so longWhat should I do?? advice please?? teenage girls and guys?
Guys talk. Simple as that. You can guess that his friend told him. Chances are, he knows. Get him alone and ask him privately. This way, if he can't for whatever reason (he is a fool if he turns you down) no one is none the wiser.
Get his number from his friend. Call him or get him alone.
He may be shy. What have YOU got to lose? If he doesn't go, then move on to the next guy. Nothing lost, nothing gained and HE will spend the rest of HIS life pondering about ';the one that got away'; that is you.
Any guy is a fool for not wanting to date you.What should I do?? advice please?? teenage girls and guys?
i think you should just tell him how you feel. i mean he probably is thinkin somethin and you should just take a risk and tell him! answer mine?
I think you should go ahead and ask him if you really want to. The only risks are that he'll say no or it will make your friendship awkward for a bittle. Tell your friends to grow up. Make your own decisions. He may have felt like you and your friends were making fun of him.
Guys talk. Simple as that. You can guess that his friend told him. Chances are, he knows. Get him alone and ask him privately. This way, if he can't for whatever reason (he is a fool if he turns you down) no one is none the wiser.
Get his number from his friend. Call him or get him alone.
He may be shy. What have YOU got to lose? If he doesn't go, then move on to the next guy. Nothing lost, nothing gained and HE will spend the rest of HIS life pondering about ';the one that got away'; that is you.
Any guy is a fool for not wanting to date you.What should I do?? advice please?? teenage girls and guys?
i think you should just tell him how you feel. i mean he probably is thinkin somethin and you should just take a risk and tell him! answer mine?
I think you should go ahead and ask him if you really want to. The only risks are that he'll say no or it will make your friendship awkward for a bittle. Tell your friends to grow up. Make your own decisions. He may have felt like you and your friends were making fun of him.
Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
I'm 17 and yesterday I found out I was pregnant. Abortion has never been an option with me, but my parents strongly suggest that I consider it. I know it's hard to raise a child, with or without money. Taking care of and keeping up with a baby doesn't concern me, it's the financial issues. The father of the baby is willing to do what he can to help me if I keep it, and I'm willing to sacrifice everything I have for this baby. I start school in September, and in June it's all over. Then I'll have my cosmetology license and can get a good job. I'm trying to think of the positives and how to make it work rather then get an abortion, which to me is a way of giving up on something I got myself into.
Can someone please help me with advice?
Thank you so much.Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
I understand your stance on abortion and I feel the same way. You should look into adoption. There are closed and open adoptions and many loving stable adults that really want a child. Keeping the child is the other option. I am sure you would be able to give them lots of love and support. Children are expensive! That is why maybe adoption would be the best thing for the child to give them the best life possible. Good Luck!Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
Good Luck! :) i think you have already decided that you want to keep it, and you just want to do whats right for your baby. Depeneding on where you live, you should get baby bonus, and maybe mothers allowance once you turn 18. Im in the same situation, 8 months pregnant and im 17. If your boyfriend is still in school maybe he could get a part time job? It might be hard for you to work and have a newborn at the same time, but if your parents are willing to help im sure you could do it :)
you sound like you know what you want. keep the baby or otherwise adoption if you think you could give up what you carried for that many months. be strong and have the father help. it is totally worth it once the baby is here. i was in college full time with both my pregnancies and so far i had one and the other on the way and it isn't as hard as people think. you can do it! :) good luck
Good luck! You sound determine to do everything you can for your baby. Make the decision based on your own feelings and no one elses. xxx
It will all work out. Trust me! I had a daughter 11 days after my 16th birthday. It was very hard. I had no help from the father. My parents helped somewhat, but made sure not to take the responsibility away from me. I had never considered abortion. That was not an option for me. Now I am 29 and she is 13 and everything is great. It was a hard road, but so worth it. I am now married and pregnant with number 4. We have a great family and are financially stable. So many times when I first became a mother I really questioned how well my life would ever be able to turn out, but now I would not change it for the world. She is a great kid and I can not imagine my life without her!
It sounds like you want to keep your baby. Go with what your heart tells you first, because if you get an abortion out of pressure you will regret it your whole life. If you feel like you can handle your baby then why not. Murder should be the last option. Just be strong and do what you have to do to care for your child. Its the responsible, unselfish thing to do seeing as how the baby is already here with a beating heart. When you look into your baby's eyes you'll know you made the right decision ; ) Good luck and congrats!
depending on your state, there are a TON of places that you can go to for help, im not saying you want to live off the state and taxpayers money for the rest of your life. but if you need government assistance until you can get on your feet, that is something else you should look into. ALSO there is alot that the government and private companys do for single mothers and that is another option for you to look into if you are interested in going to a form of college or furthering your education.
im not a teenager, im 21 and i am about to be a single mother and i have been looking into such sources because i did decide to keep my baby. i think its commendable that you want to try and make things work for you and the baby :)
things will be very hard and if you think you can handle being a single mother, chances are you can! and you seem very mature in knowing that you dont have the financial means to support your child alone. It seems though, that you do have some kind of plan for how to support the child :D kudos to that!!!
Good luck and if you would like to chat further or need help about where to look for the assistance i mentioned u can email me through my profile on here.
OH boy this question really has me worked up!
I was in your same situation only... six months ago.
Please please please, if you care at all about this baby, DO NOT give it up for adoption. s/he will end up in the WORST of places. They will grow up in a terrible world of abuse and drugs or molestation and rape from their foster parents. They will be born and later when they find out that they were adopted, they will know that you did not love them enough to keep them. they will be so f***ed up with that thought I can't even explain! I have known so many people and read so many stories across the web of people that were adopted. they chose abortion because they CARED enough to keep their unborn child safe from growing up with drug addiction like they did. Your child will always wonder who their birth parents were and what they did WRONG to not make you love them enough to keep them. they will always think, gee, i bet my birth parents wouldn't abuse me like this. if they knew me now, im sure they would love me and give me a good home, but no! you chose to dump it off to some insane pedophile home. Look it up. There are WAY too many babies being born this way. They are ALL suffering, waiting for good homes that will never come. they will just be stuck in an orphanage, being looked over like prospective puppies. if you read harry potter, look at voldemort. he was an orphan. do you see what im getting at?
I'm not condemning you, I am opening you up to the real truth that is adoption. People who adopt are selfless, but not always a good parent. People who make a child JUST to give it away are disgusting.
I didn't chose that route because I cannot imagine seeing my child being beaten and abused until they start doing heroine or meth, get pregnant and start the cycle anew. It's depressing. I love children and I care about their wellbeing.
Your parents know that is the BEST option. You realise the economy is horrible, right? You will never be able to support it. ****, my husband and I can't even support OURSELVES. We live on HIS income ONLY. If we would've brought a child into this world, she would be starving and naked. We only make 600 a month, 505 goes to rent. 58 goes to electricity, and 26 goes to renters insurance (i don't want a fire to ruin our life) We get 160 a month in food stamps and that's it! We cannot afford anything! your baby won't have any better of a life.
I know i might sound mean, but I really am not, and its hard to give words real meaning on the internet, but if you'd like to talk to me further you can add me on yahoo messenger. I'm bluebloodedelf .
I am not heartless, and I jumped back and forth on whether we should keep it or not, and I'm glad we didn't. I know we couldnt have made it with one. Most places I want to work you have to be 18. that's the real reality. you're not old or experienced enough to make good money and you can't go to school pregnant. Morning sickness will kill you. If you wait, and i strongly suggest you don't, abortion will be harder. all you do is take a few pills and you get a period. all done.
otherwise your whole life will be hell for a long time. unfortunately the world was not made for us young people. we cannot get credit, we have no credit, we're not old enough, they think we're stupid, car insurance is ****!!!! expensive. you have to be 18 to rent a place.
i've read posts from older mothers and they know it will never WORK out. it's hard enough raising a baby when milk is 4 dollars a gallon. you have to be RICH. As far as the father goes.... I've seen way too many single mothers with this situation. i don't care what he says, they will leave you for someone else. you'll miss the 'prom' whatever because youll be feeling like a big whale, and he'll be too embarassed to take you. you'll break up and tada! single mother washing dishes for 6.55 an hour, starving baby, using up welfare, can't afford life, depressed. seriously please. You're not in my situation and i beg you not to experience it. being rock bottom poor sucks. I don't want to lecture you and if you have any questions or want to talk about my experience with morning sickness, hormones, mood swings, anything about abortion, maybe just questions, I won't force you, ill just tell you what im going through.
I'm a really friendly person who is experienced in a lot of topics and I care about childrens well-being.
so add me on yahoo: bluebloodedelfmascara makeup
Can someone please help me with advice?
Thank you so much.Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
I understand your stance on abortion and I feel the same way. You should look into adoption. There are closed and open adoptions and many loving stable adults that really want a child. Keeping the child is the other option. I am sure you would be able to give them lots of love and support. Children are expensive! That is why maybe adoption would be the best thing for the child to give them the best life possible. Good Luck!Who can give me advice on teenage pregnancy?
Good Luck! :) i think you have already decided that you want to keep it, and you just want to do whats right for your baby. Depeneding on where you live, you should get baby bonus, and maybe mothers allowance once you turn 18. Im in the same situation, 8 months pregnant and im 17. If your boyfriend is still in school maybe he could get a part time job? It might be hard for you to work and have a newborn at the same time, but if your parents are willing to help im sure you could do it :)
you sound like you know what you want. keep the baby or otherwise adoption if you think you could give up what you carried for that many months. be strong and have the father help. it is totally worth it once the baby is here. i was in college full time with both my pregnancies and so far i had one and the other on the way and it isn't as hard as people think. you can do it! :) good luck
Good luck! You sound determine to do everything you can for your baby. Make the decision based on your own feelings and no one elses. xxx
It will all work out. Trust me! I had a daughter 11 days after my 16th birthday. It was very hard. I had no help from the father. My parents helped somewhat, but made sure not to take the responsibility away from me. I had never considered abortion. That was not an option for me. Now I am 29 and she is 13 and everything is great. It was a hard road, but so worth it. I am now married and pregnant with number 4. We have a great family and are financially stable. So many times when I first became a mother I really questioned how well my life would ever be able to turn out, but now I would not change it for the world. She is a great kid and I can not imagine my life without her!
It sounds like you want to keep your baby. Go with what your heart tells you first, because if you get an abortion out of pressure you will regret it your whole life. If you feel like you can handle your baby then why not. Murder should be the last option. Just be strong and do what you have to do to care for your child. Its the responsible, unselfish thing to do seeing as how the baby is already here with a beating heart. When you look into your baby's eyes you'll know you made the right decision ; ) Good luck and congrats!
depending on your state, there are a TON of places that you can go to for help, im not saying you want to live off the state and taxpayers money for the rest of your life. but if you need government assistance until you can get on your feet, that is something else you should look into. ALSO there is alot that the government and private companys do for single mothers and that is another option for you to look into if you are interested in going to a form of college or furthering your education.
im not a teenager, im 21 and i am about to be a single mother and i have been looking into such sources because i did decide to keep my baby. i think its commendable that you want to try and make things work for you and the baby :)
things will be very hard and if you think you can handle being a single mother, chances are you can! and you seem very mature in knowing that you dont have the financial means to support your child alone. It seems though, that you do have some kind of plan for how to support the child :D kudos to that!!!
Good luck and if you would like to chat further or need help about where to look for the assistance i mentioned u can email me through my profile on here.
OH boy this question really has me worked up!
I was in your same situation only... six months ago.
Please please please, if you care at all about this baby, DO NOT give it up for adoption. s/he will end up in the WORST of places. They will grow up in a terrible world of abuse and drugs or molestation and rape from their foster parents. They will be born and later when they find out that they were adopted, they will know that you did not love them enough to keep them. they will be so f***ed up with that thought I can't even explain! I have known so many people and read so many stories across the web of people that were adopted. they chose abortion because they CARED enough to keep their unborn child safe from growing up with drug addiction like they did. Your child will always wonder who their birth parents were and what they did WRONG to not make you love them enough to keep them. they will always think, gee, i bet my birth parents wouldn't abuse me like this. if they knew me now, im sure they would love me and give me a good home, but no! you chose to dump it off to some insane pedophile home. Look it up. There are WAY too many babies being born this way. They are ALL suffering, waiting for good homes that will never come. they will just be stuck in an orphanage, being looked over like prospective puppies. if you read harry potter, look at voldemort. he was an orphan. do you see what im getting at?
I'm not condemning you, I am opening you up to the real truth that is adoption. People who adopt are selfless, but not always a good parent. People who make a child JUST to give it away are disgusting.
I didn't chose that route because I cannot imagine seeing my child being beaten and abused until they start doing heroine or meth, get pregnant and start the cycle anew. It's depressing. I love children and I care about their wellbeing.
Your parents know that is the BEST option. You realise the economy is horrible, right? You will never be able to support it. ****, my husband and I can't even support OURSELVES. We live on HIS income ONLY. If we would've brought a child into this world, she would be starving and naked. We only make 600 a month, 505 goes to rent. 58 goes to electricity, and 26 goes to renters insurance (i don't want a fire to ruin our life) We get 160 a month in food stamps and that's it! We cannot afford anything! your baby won't have any better of a life.
I know i might sound mean, but I really am not, and its hard to give words real meaning on the internet, but if you'd like to talk to me further you can add me on yahoo messenger. I'm bluebloodedelf .
I am not heartless, and I jumped back and forth on whether we should keep it or not, and I'm glad we didn't. I know we couldnt have made it with one. Most places I want to work you have to be 18. that's the real reality. you're not old or experienced enough to make good money and you can't go to school pregnant. Morning sickness will kill you. If you wait, and i strongly suggest you don't, abortion will be harder. all you do is take a few pills and you get a period. all done.
otherwise your whole life will be hell for a long time. unfortunately the world was not made for us young people. we cannot get credit, we have no credit, we're not old enough, they think we're stupid, car insurance is ****!!!! expensive. you have to be 18 to rent a place.
i've read posts from older mothers and they know it will never WORK out. it's hard enough raising a baby when milk is 4 dollars a gallon. you have to be RICH. As far as the father goes.... I've seen way too many single mothers with this situation. i don't care what he says, they will leave you for someone else. you'll miss the 'prom' whatever because youll be feeling like a big whale, and he'll be too embarassed to take you. you'll break up and tada! single mother washing dishes for 6.55 an hour, starving baby, using up welfare, can't afford life, depressed. seriously please. You're not in my situation and i beg you not to experience it. being rock bottom poor sucks. I don't want to lecture you and if you have any questions or want to talk about my experience with morning sickness, hormones, mood swings, anything about abortion, maybe just questions, I won't force you, ill just tell you what im going through.
I'm a really friendly person who is experienced in a lot of topics and I care about childrens well-being.
so add me on yahoo: bluebloodedelf
Please help, adult advice on teenage problem? :(?
hi, alright so this is the story:
im 16 years old, junior in highschol, gets good grades, and still a virgin, most of my friends arent virgins and they always make fun of me for being a virgin but dont worry, i dont get fooled. i WANT to wait til marriage and i WILL wait till marriage regards to whatever they say.
couple days ago, as a joke, my friend (as a joke) typed this funny ';contract';that says ';I, (MY NAME) WILL LOSE MY VIRGINTY'; when i sign that i agreed to lose my virginity before senior year, we all laughed about it (i dont take it personally) and they all faked my signature on it and so on.. so after all the laughing and joking around, like friends do, i kept the piece of paper with me so no one would find it, i put it in my purse so id throw it away at home, but i seemed to forgot and my mom (behind my back) looked through my purse and found that paper. now, i have two older sisters (18 and 20) and they both live with us and she showed them it. so when i came home after school, i walked in the door, my 18 yr old sister calls me a slut and gives me a dirty looks, i didnt think anything of it as we dont get along, so i just went upstairs to my room and my 20 yr old sister opens my door and calls me a whore. and leaves. then my mom comes in, and she told me she found this in my purse (the contract) i decided to tell her the truth that all kids tease me and it was just a joke between my friends and she should know better that i wont do that.
but the thing that hurt me the most was that she showed two of my sisters (there planning on telling my dad) before she confronted me. i never had a good relationship with my mom or sisters because im just different, im more mellow and easy going and gets along with anyone, while there full of drama and are the biggest racist people you will ever meet.
im really sorry if this is long, but i dont have anyone to talk to, and there is no way i will ever talk to my mom about anything again as it seems that i cant trust her :/ help. is it my fault? what do i do?Please help, adult advice on teenage problem? :(?
awww, I feel so bad for you. First of all, I'm proud of you wanting to wait til marriage-I do as well. All this is definitely not your fault. You were honest with your mom, so she should be able to forget about it and move on. Your siblings seem really unsupportive. They didn't even talk to you about it, they just called you names. Also, look at it as a good thing that you are different from the rest of your family. It's good you realize their mistakes and that you wanna be your own person. It seems like you are a really good person. In the end, it doesn't matter what your dad and mom will think of the note. As long as you know, in your heart, what your intentions were, nothing else matters. Your opinion is the most important, and it seems like you know where you stand. I congratulate you! Just be honest with your parents, and it will all work out. I hope this helped! :)Please help, adult advice on teenage problem? :(?
Just tell them to **** off. That it is your body and you'll do what you want. It doesn't matter what they think as long as your safe.
wow
well first off. be yourself
ignore your friends and what they choose to do
dont treat them any different for the decisions they make
and maybe one day they will grow up and be as smart and as mature as you one day
and if that never happens friends come and go
your family
ouch
yeah family can hurt
what is said is said
you told the truth and you are aware of your own thoughts and ideas
continue what you believe is right and be yourself
i have a good friend of mine
who grew up with a racist family
hes a bright man. very smart
hes about 36
when he was 23ish
he changed his name so he didnt have to associate with them and their ways
do your thing and be yourself
first of all be yourself stay a virgin heck im 13 and all my friends are doing it but im not and they do tease me but they also regret doing it especially the pregnant ones or the ones that have HIV don't do it until you're ready
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im 16 years old, junior in highschol, gets good grades, and still a virgin, most of my friends arent virgins and they always make fun of me for being a virgin but dont worry, i dont get fooled. i WANT to wait til marriage and i WILL wait till marriage regards to whatever they say.
couple days ago, as a joke, my friend (as a joke) typed this funny ';contract';that says ';I, (MY NAME) WILL LOSE MY VIRGINTY'; when i sign that i agreed to lose my virginity before senior year, we all laughed about it (i dont take it personally) and they all faked my signature on it and so on.. so after all the laughing and joking around, like friends do, i kept the piece of paper with me so no one would find it, i put it in my purse so id throw it away at home, but i seemed to forgot and my mom (behind my back) looked through my purse and found that paper. now, i have two older sisters (18 and 20) and they both live with us and she showed them it. so when i came home after school, i walked in the door, my 18 yr old sister calls me a slut and gives me a dirty looks, i didnt think anything of it as we dont get along, so i just went upstairs to my room and my 20 yr old sister opens my door and calls me a whore. and leaves. then my mom comes in, and she told me she found this in my purse (the contract) i decided to tell her the truth that all kids tease me and it was just a joke between my friends and she should know better that i wont do that.
but the thing that hurt me the most was that she showed two of my sisters (there planning on telling my dad) before she confronted me. i never had a good relationship with my mom or sisters because im just different, im more mellow and easy going and gets along with anyone, while there full of drama and are the biggest racist people you will ever meet.
im really sorry if this is long, but i dont have anyone to talk to, and there is no way i will ever talk to my mom about anything again as it seems that i cant trust her :/ help. is it my fault? what do i do?Please help, adult advice on teenage problem? :(?
awww, I feel so bad for you. First of all, I'm proud of you wanting to wait til marriage-I do as well. All this is definitely not your fault. You were honest with your mom, so she should be able to forget about it and move on. Your siblings seem really unsupportive. They didn't even talk to you about it, they just called you names. Also, look at it as a good thing that you are different from the rest of your family. It's good you realize their mistakes and that you wanna be your own person. It seems like you are a really good person. In the end, it doesn't matter what your dad and mom will think of the note. As long as you know, in your heart, what your intentions were, nothing else matters. Your opinion is the most important, and it seems like you know where you stand. I congratulate you! Just be honest with your parents, and it will all work out. I hope this helped! :)Please help, adult advice on teenage problem? :(?
Just tell them to **** off. That it is your body and you'll do what you want. It doesn't matter what they think as long as your safe.
wow
well first off. be yourself
ignore your friends and what they choose to do
dont treat them any different for the decisions they make
and maybe one day they will grow up and be as smart and as mature as you one day
and if that never happens friends come and go
your family
ouch
yeah family can hurt
what is said is said
you told the truth and you are aware of your own thoughts and ideas
continue what you believe is right and be yourself
i have a good friend of mine
who grew up with a racist family
hes a bright man. very smart
hes about 36
when he was 23ish
he changed his name so he didnt have to associate with them and their ways
do your thing and be yourself
first of all be yourself stay a virgin heck im 13 and all my friends are doing it but im not and they do tease me but they also regret doing it especially the pregnant ones or the ones that have HIV don't do it until you're ready
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I need some advice from teenage girls?
So my cousin (who is turning 13 in two months) want to wear make up.
I personally started wearing it since I was like 16 and so I think it's a bit to early, but wtvr..
I have a lot of make up and a pretty big collection and she like admires it and always asks me to put some make up on her every time I see her, and I gladly do it for her since I LOVE MAKE UP!
Anyways, her mom (also my aunt) is completely against her wearing make up until shes like in high school (possibly even older), and my cousin wants me to help her to convince her mom about it.
I mean, I think it's a bit ridiculous that she wants to wear make up at such a young age. I'm almost 20 and I recently started wearing full make up!!
So, can you tell me how you convinced your parents???I need some advice from teenage girls?
i started wearing make up in the 7th grade and I TOTALLY REGRET IT!!!!! now i feel naked without it but life would be sooo much easier if i didnt have to put make up on all the time. but i would convince her mom to let her wear clear mascara (it works..kinda), and clearish eyeshadow with glitter.. like maybe a shimmery light pink. and lip gloss. and thats good enough for that little chickie!!!I need some advice from teenage girls?
Make-up is not that big of a deal, I started wearing it when i was 12 or 13. I started wearing my mum's older makeup she didnt like anymore, so I didnt really have to convince her..
Your cousin doesn't have to go full on cake-face, but surely a little lip gloss and eyeshadow isn't such a big deal? Its just something that some girls like to wear: doesn't mean that she is going to be skanky or whatever. Its not that bad, its fun.
try talking to her and let her know that all girls feel extra pretty when they wear makeup but that doesn't mean you're not pretty without it. if she still wants to she could try starting off slow with lip gloss and work from there.
btw i've started an advice column on youtube about questions like this. if you want to check it out and comment whatever other questions you may have i'd be glad to answer them. :)
just go to youtube.com and search for thatbrowngirl890
or go to the link directly
http://www.youtube.com/user/ThatBrownGir鈥?/a>
Try to convice her to start small. Maybe just a little eyeshadow or blush. Don't let her go for the eyeliner right off the bat. That's what I did when I was about her age. Try giving her some simple, sparkly stuff meant for pre-teens or something. Then when she gets to high school, she and her mom can talk about how much she can wear.
Good luck!
when i was 13 all i wanted to do was experiment with make up
and i would tell my mother that i would start out small.
she bought me this little make up kit with a diagram of how to put it on.
if you just reassure them that she is growing up and she wants to try something new then sooner or later they should give in
i told them that i wouldn't wear like over the top clown looking makeup. only the basics: mascara eyeliner eye shadow. not all of the concealers and things because they make my face breakout at a young age. those facial things are bad on young skin. they said i could wear it as long as it wasn't totally obvious and whako!
Ha thats strange. I've been wearing like marlyn manson dark make-up since I was about 12. :)
But, I think it more depends on the parents. If they dont want their child wearing it, then thats the way it will be. Try putting a little on her and show her mom what it looks like, and that its not that bad,.
Well, 4 me, my parents r care-free on the make-up. I didn't ask and just wore it one day and they didn't tell me 2 take it off so since then I've worn make-up. btw, I was 13.
In ur situation, u might say that all the girls r wearing make-up now. Or, say, this is really what I want. Please, let me give it a try...???? Don't 4get the puppy-dog eyes!
I started 7th grade at 12 about to turn 13.I asked and got my sister to talk to my mom.
Tell your aunt thatd itd only be a little(eyeshadow,blush,lip gloss)and that youll teach her how to apply it so she doesnt look like a tramp.
I just wore very little makeup at first like lip gloss and a little mascara then put like eyeliner on after a little while then blush and stuff. Soon my parents didn't even notice haha.
I am 13 and I wear makeup. Most Of my friends wear a full face of makeup. I think its not 2 young, just say that all the girls are wearing it now. :)
showed them how mature i am and how responsible i can be..........
beg them and say that they would be the best ever! haha
there is no way you could convince her mom into lettin her 13 year old wear make up..if she doesnt approve of it...and i personally think u souldnt try either she is really young and i agree with you i started wearin full make by senior year h.s
kids these days shouldnt look older than they really are...there are some really young skanky girls out there not that im blaming only make up but still...if anything convince your cousin that shes cute without it ...all she really need right now is some lipgloss and maybe a lil blush...and tell her when she gets OLDER youd be the first one to help her out in applying all the other good stuff like mascara and eyshadows and stuff since she admires you...but for now she might have to wait in a bit :)
I started experimenting with makeup at around 15. Didn't really have to say anything.. I just dabbed on a little concealer and gloss and some mascara. No one really said anything but Mum asked me later what kind of mascara I'd applied because it made my lashes look really curled without using a curler. I guess mums know more than what they're letting on.
You could probably promise your aunt that you'll introduce her to makeup slowly.. no full-faced or outrageous makeup at 13, but perhaps the natural, fresh-faced look with light pink gloss and brown mascara. Just make sure to keep it light, no foundation/dark eyeliner. That should do it lol..
I personally started wearing it since I was like 16 and so I think it's a bit to early, but wtvr..
I have a lot of make up and a pretty big collection and she like admires it and always asks me to put some make up on her every time I see her, and I gladly do it for her since I LOVE MAKE UP!
Anyways, her mom (also my aunt) is completely against her wearing make up until shes like in high school (possibly even older), and my cousin wants me to help her to convince her mom about it.
I mean, I think it's a bit ridiculous that she wants to wear make up at such a young age. I'm almost 20 and I recently started wearing full make up!!
So, can you tell me how you convinced your parents???I need some advice from teenage girls?
i started wearing make up in the 7th grade and I TOTALLY REGRET IT!!!!! now i feel naked without it but life would be sooo much easier if i didnt have to put make up on all the time. but i would convince her mom to let her wear clear mascara (it works..kinda), and clearish eyeshadow with glitter.. like maybe a shimmery light pink. and lip gloss. and thats good enough for that little chickie!!!I need some advice from teenage girls?
Make-up is not that big of a deal, I started wearing it when i was 12 or 13. I started wearing my mum's older makeup she didnt like anymore, so I didnt really have to convince her..
Your cousin doesn't have to go full on cake-face, but surely a little lip gloss and eyeshadow isn't such a big deal? Its just something that some girls like to wear: doesn't mean that she is going to be skanky or whatever. Its not that bad, its fun.
try talking to her and let her know that all girls feel extra pretty when they wear makeup but that doesn't mean you're not pretty without it. if she still wants to she could try starting off slow with lip gloss and work from there.
btw i've started an advice column on youtube about questions like this. if you want to check it out and comment whatever other questions you may have i'd be glad to answer them. :)
just go to youtube.com and search for thatbrowngirl890
or go to the link directly
http://www.youtube.com/user/ThatBrownGir鈥?/a>
Try to convice her to start small. Maybe just a little eyeshadow or blush. Don't let her go for the eyeliner right off the bat. That's what I did when I was about her age. Try giving her some simple, sparkly stuff meant for pre-teens or something. Then when she gets to high school, she and her mom can talk about how much she can wear.
Good luck!
when i was 13 all i wanted to do was experiment with make up
and i would tell my mother that i would start out small.
she bought me this little make up kit with a diagram of how to put it on.
if you just reassure them that she is growing up and she wants to try something new then sooner or later they should give in
i told them that i wouldn't wear like over the top clown looking makeup. only the basics: mascara eyeliner eye shadow. not all of the concealers and things because they make my face breakout at a young age. those facial things are bad on young skin. they said i could wear it as long as it wasn't totally obvious and whako!
Ha thats strange. I've been wearing like marlyn manson dark make-up since I was about 12. :)
But, I think it more depends on the parents. If they dont want their child wearing it, then thats the way it will be. Try putting a little on her and show her mom what it looks like, and that its not that bad,.
Well, 4 me, my parents r care-free on the make-up. I didn't ask and just wore it one day and they didn't tell me 2 take it off so since then I've worn make-up. btw, I was 13.
In ur situation, u might say that all the girls r wearing make-up now. Or, say, this is really what I want. Please, let me give it a try...???? Don't 4get the puppy-dog eyes!
I started 7th grade at 12 about to turn 13.I asked and got my sister to talk to my mom.
Tell your aunt thatd itd only be a little(eyeshadow,blush,lip gloss)and that youll teach her how to apply it so she doesnt look like a tramp.
I just wore very little makeup at first like lip gloss and a little mascara then put like eyeliner on after a little while then blush and stuff. Soon my parents didn't even notice haha.
I am 13 and I wear makeup. Most Of my friends wear a full face of makeup. I think its not 2 young, just say that all the girls are wearing it now. :)
showed them how mature i am and how responsible i can be..........
beg them and say that they would be the best ever! haha
there is no way you could convince her mom into lettin her 13 year old wear make up..if she doesnt approve of it...and i personally think u souldnt try either she is really young and i agree with you i started wearin full make by senior year h.s
kids these days shouldnt look older than they really are...there are some really young skanky girls out there not that im blaming only make up but still...if anything convince your cousin that shes cute without it ...all she really need right now is some lipgloss and maybe a lil blush...and tell her when she gets OLDER youd be the first one to help her out in applying all the other good stuff like mascara and eyshadows and stuff since she admires you...but for now she might have to wait in a bit :)
I started experimenting with makeup at around 15. Didn't really have to say anything.. I just dabbed on a little concealer and gloss and some mascara. No one really said anything but Mum asked me later what kind of mascara I'd applied because it made my lashes look really curled without using a curler. I guess mums know more than what they're letting on.
You could probably promise your aunt that you'll introduce her to makeup slowly.. no full-faced or outrageous makeup at 13, but perhaps the natural, fresh-faced look with light pink gloss and brown mascara. Just make sure to keep it light, no foundation/dark eyeliner. That should do it lol..
I need some advice from teenage ladies only....?
ok, so a few days ago this girl approached me while i was clowning around with my buddies in gym class and for whatever reason she suddenly felt the need to interrupt me and ask if i had food on me. why in in the world would she do that?.. i mean this girl never talks to me but we 've known each other since fifth grader i think........why would she all of a sudden have a spark of interest in me?. i'm the same guy i was back in elementary school.. I need some advice from teenage ladies only....?
People change as soon as they grow up a little. My boyfriend of three years asked me out every year since middle school but I kept telling him no, we were just friends. Then the summer between 9th and 10th grade his face cleared up, his braces came off and he was so much mature looking and acting. The next time he asked me out I said yes.
This girl probably was trying to get your attention with any random question, maybe trying to be cutesy.I need some advice from teenage ladies only....?
OK... First off..
Im a teenage girl. I am super random! i do that stuff all the time. I walk round asking people in my grade for their dna.. I ask for food all the time. and mostly money! :P i dont know most of the people i get it from.. Im serious.. she could just be doing a dare.. u never know.
She might have been hungry.
She might have been interested.
She might have been dared by her friends to do it.
Maybe she likes one of the guys you were talking to.
The possibilities are endless when dealing with the teenage girl mind.
maybe it was the only thing she could think of to say.. as she just really wanted to talk to you... and maybe if shes cute.. get to know her, being superficial might just be a cover for a really nice person.
maybe she was high. or maybe shes decided that shes into you and was awkwardly trying to initiate some sort of elevated relationship
Maybe she was hungry...
Or maybe she thought it would be funny...
Or maybe she thinks you're cute all of the sudden.
Maybe she just hadnt noticed you like that b4?
was she really fat? fat girls eat alot, and if your fat, maybe she thought you had food
People change as soon as they grow up a little. My boyfriend of three years asked me out every year since middle school but I kept telling him no, we were just friends. Then the summer between 9th and 10th grade his face cleared up, his braces came off and he was so much mature looking and acting. The next time he asked me out I said yes.
This girl probably was trying to get your attention with any random question, maybe trying to be cutesy.I need some advice from teenage ladies only....?
OK... First off..
Im a teenage girl. I am super random! i do that stuff all the time. I walk round asking people in my grade for their dna.. I ask for food all the time. and mostly money! :P i dont know most of the people i get it from.. Im serious.. she could just be doing a dare.. u never know.
She might have been hungry.
She might have been interested.
She might have been dared by her friends to do it.
Maybe she likes one of the guys you were talking to.
The possibilities are endless when dealing with the teenage girl mind.
maybe it was the only thing she could think of to say.. as she just really wanted to talk to you... and maybe if shes cute.. get to know her, being superficial might just be a cover for a really nice person.
maybe she was high. or maybe shes decided that shes into you and was awkwardly trying to initiate some sort of elevated relationship
Maybe she was hungry...
Or maybe she thought it would be funny...
Or maybe she thinks you're cute all of the sudden.
Maybe she just hadnt noticed you like that b4?
was she really fat? fat girls eat alot, and if your fat, maybe she thought you had food
I need advice from teenage girls/guys! please?
Okay, see i have a little issue with my current boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend...Here's the story... i have decided to go to this really awesome hang out place with my best friend this friday and so i asked my current bf if he wanted to come meet us there to hang out... well just the other day my EX-bf texted me and said he wanted to be friends again and that he was sorry for being such a jerk to me(another story). Well, he said he wanted to hang out with me this fridaytoo... soooo, i have a question for y'all... I don't like my ex anymore, but i want him to squirm when he sees me.. i want him to realize what he missed out on. How can i do that? Please help me :]
and i dont know if this is important or not.. I'm an upcoming 9th grader and my ex is an upcoming 10th grader. My BF and best friend are also upcoming freshmen.I need advice from teenage girls/guys! please?
Tell him this, I'm hanging out with my boyfriend at ____ sorry. If he shows up, then he'll squirm and you don't have to worry bout yer boyfriend being mad for you inviting him. DONT invite him along with you and yer boyfriend, thats not only trashy but it could offend yer boyfriend, unless he's one of those trophy boys that just wants to show you off, but if he is, ditch him, those guys are douches lol.
Also, it would make him squirm more to not hangout with him. If you don't invite him and tell him sorry I'm busy with my new boyfriend who isn't a jerk, that's so much more in his face. Then he'll realize what he's missing out on. If you give him the time of day and say sure you can tag along that doesn't say he lost you, that says you still care. You want to make a guy squirm?... blow him off.I need advice from teenage girls/guys! please?
Don't see him. Then he will know what he missed out.
make out with him in front yer ex
and i dont know if this is important or not.. I'm an upcoming 9th grader and my ex is an upcoming 10th grader. My BF and best friend are also upcoming freshmen.I need advice from teenage girls/guys! please?
Tell him this, I'm hanging out with my boyfriend at ____ sorry. If he shows up, then he'll squirm and you don't have to worry bout yer boyfriend being mad for you inviting him. DONT invite him along with you and yer boyfriend, thats not only trashy but it could offend yer boyfriend, unless he's one of those trophy boys that just wants to show you off, but if he is, ditch him, those guys are douches lol.
Also, it would make him squirm more to not hangout with him. If you don't invite him and tell him sorry I'm busy with my new boyfriend who isn't a jerk, that's so much more in his face. Then he'll realize what he's missing out on. If you give him the time of day and say sure you can tag along that doesn't say he lost you, that says you still care. You want to make a guy squirm?... blow him off.I need advice from teenage girls/guys! please?
Don't see him. Then he will know what he missed out.
make out with him in front yer ex
Tampon question advice from teenage girls or people who are experienced with using tampons wanted?
ok so if i use a tampon wont o be a open virgin and i heard tht if u use a tampon ittl look like u had sex and when u go the obgyn itll look like u had sex because the hole is open is it true and btw how do use a tmpon and were do u insert it?Tampon question advice from teenage girls or people who are experienced with using tampons wanted?
A hymen is a thin piece of tissue partially covering the small opening to your vagina. It is usually commen for girls to get their period, who do sports!!!!!!!Tampon question advice from teenage girls or people who are experienced with using tampons wanted?
The hymen is a thin membrane within the vagina that can stretch across the opening. However, many girls are born with hymens that do not connect to both sides of the vaginal walls, and some are born without a hymen altogether.
A hymen can be broken inserting a tampon, or horseback riding, but many women will also break their hymen through everyday activities like walking, riding a bike, or even just walking around. It's not a reliable indicator of virginity.
A hymen is a thin peice of tissue partially covering the small opening to your vagina. Your hynem could have popped while you where horse back riding it is rare though. It is also rare to break it while using a tampon. Remember never to let a tampon stay in you formore than 8 hours. good luck!
Doctors can tell if you truly broke your virginity, i have no idea how though. only a guy can truly break it. look at the directions for usage
A hymen is a thin piece of tissue partially covering the small opening to your vagina. It is usually commen for girls to get their period, who do sports!!!!!!!Tampon question advice from teenage girls or people who are experienced with using tampons wanted?
The hymen is a thin membrane within the vagina that can stretch across the opening. However, many girls are born with hymens that do not connect to both sides of the vaginal walls, and some are born without a hymen altogether.
A hymen can be broken inserting a tampon, or horseback riding, but many women will also break their hymen through everyday activities like walking, riding a bike, or even just walking around. It's not a reliable indicator of virginity.
A hymen is a thin peice of tissue partially covering the small opening to your vagina. Your hynem could have popped while you where horse back riding it is rare though. It is also rare to break it while using a tampon. Remember never to let a tampon stay in you formore than 8 hours. good luck!
Doctors can tell if you truly broke your virginity, i have no idea how though. only a guy can truly break it. look at the directions for usage
I need advice from teenage girls...Has this ever happened to you?
I've liked this boy for a long time. Last week I found out that one of my friends asked him who he liked. She said my name and he blushed and smiled. I guess when she asked again he said ';Maaybee'; All of my friends are telling me to ask him out, but I'm way too nervous to. I get nervous just talking to him. So Friday in science class (I sit across from him) we were watching a movie so I was turned away from him. He was writing in his notebook. When I turned around he flipped his notebook over and then he tipped it against the table so I couldn't see what he was writing. I didn't say anything and I don't know if it even means ANYTHING. But I don't know what I should do! I know I have to say something, that's why I need adviceI need advice from teenage girls...Has this ever happened to you?
Well, if everyone is so sure, you could always write a little letter. ';Do you like me? YES or NO.I need advice from teenage girls...Has this ever happened to you?
Ask Him out, take a chance!
i think he might like you, have you tried flirting with him, just ask him if he likes you,mascara makeup
Well, if everyone is so sure, you could always write a little letter. ';Do you like me? YES or NO.I need advice from teenage girls...Has this ever happened to you?
Ask Him out, take a chance!
i think he might like you, have you tried flirting with him, just ask him if he likes you,
Need parental advice concerning teenage daughter.. she's about to be 15 in a few days. She wants to date and
I'm concerned about it. She doesn't make the best decisions. I had her at age 18 and don't want the same for her. I've always talked openly with her and discussed decisions I've made. The why's and the why nots. We have a great relationship but I am still her mom and can't come up with a good reason to let her date and come up with too many bad ones. I want to be fair though. We live in a small town and they don't really do the group dating thing here. Any advice would be very appreciated. ThanksNeed parental advice concerning teenage daughter.. she's about to be 15 in a few days. She wants to date and
It's definately a tough situation to be in. It sounds like you've done the right things so far, making sure she is educated, and understands the implications of her decisions. I think it's important to keep that open, honest communication with your daughter, and that alone might be the reason to let her date.
If there's anything that I remember from being a teenager, it is that teenager's will do what teenager's want to do. Whether or not you ';let'; her date, she'll likely date. The difference is whether or not you will know about it.
I would encourage you to let her date, but keep yourself integrally involved in the process. Talk to her about her dates. Have her and her boyfriend over at YOUR house, watch movies in the living room with them, etc.
Make sure to keep the open and honest communication. You'll know when she starts ';kissing';, etc. If there comes a time when she wants birth control, remember how you felt as a confused adolescent. Talk to her, be open and honest, and by all means give her whatever resources she needs to be safe.
The last thing you want is for her to be sneaking around with some guy. By being flexible yet involved, I think you can do a great job of bringing your daughter into adulthood.
Granted my daughter is only 6, but what I've laid out is certainly the approach I plan to take with my own family when the time comes.
Best of luck to you!Need parental advice concerning teenage daughter.. she's about to be 15 in a few days. She wants to date and
Say she can date at 16..Maybe chaperone..like they go to the movies, you eat downstairs at the cafe..then take them home..I am sure at 20 she won't be mad that you looked out for her.
you need to win her heart the first! u know ur daughter well . teenagers basically think that they are the modern generation ppl and others are backward . its her age od discoveing ,experimenting as she doesent believe in not walking due to the fear of falling but wants to experience the fall!at her age probably she cant share everything wid u as she fears that ur reactions may change or u may ban her from something!she need 's even a person more than a friend to share her problem with whoo even loves her as not a daughter , friend but as a girl.make her understand the meaning of date! tell her not to take all these things of attraction to heart and affect wid her studies. as girls suffer heartbreaks 4 longer time. tell her to make wise descisons!
Just because ';they'; don't do the group dating thing....does not mean you don't....If she really wants to date at age 15 she has to work with you...how hard is it to get a group of guys and girls to go out to a movie??? My best dating experiences at that young age were the group dates...more people to talk to if things were to get boring with the guy...also there is less pressure to feel like you need to be romantic in a group setting.....I grew up religious and had certain standards to go by....I will give you a website to read this pamphlet and it does give a lot of good Ideas...so good luck.
if you don't think she makes good decisions, you shouldn't allow her to date.. you don't need to be ';fair'; you need to do what's in the best interest for your child.. if the cons of her dating outweigh the pros that significantly, tell her no.
um, not what you wanna hear but Birth control , and make sure she takes it.
Who's the mom here? If you don't feel as if she is ready to date, then don't let her! She might be mad, but YOU are the ultimate one who makes the decisions until she's 18. Being ';fair'; isn't always the best choice or decision! Stand your grounds! IF more parents would take efforts to control thier children, I don't believe there would be as much teenage sex or pregnancies. Good luck with your efforts.
Let her know that not being fully mature, dating can lead to dangerous situations. She may also be heart-broken easily or one too many times.
I think that making better decisions should be a prerequisite. It's hard to know what to say. You can hardly trust any young men today.
Where is her DAD? He really needs to be the strong influence here and make his presence known with her and the guys who come around? If there is no dad, you can fulfill that role, and you must.
Kids need your STRENGTH along with your love. If you have both, you will be the strongest influence in her life.
P.S. Ignore the stupid, idiotic, ridiculous advice by liberal Mark in the response below. People like him are the reason that many young people are messed up. I might add that THAT is what they're also teaching in sex ed classes, with insane liberals being the instructors and promoters.
Mark, seek mental therapy for your liberal condition.
It's definately a tough situation to be in. It sounds like you've done the right things so far, making sure she is educated, and understands the implications of her decisions. I think it's important to keep that open, honest communication with your daughter, and that alone might be the reason to let her date.
If there's anything that I remember from being a teenager, it is that teenager's will do what teenager's want to do. Whether or not you ';let'; her date, she'll likely date. The difference is whether or not you will know about it.
I would encourage you to let her date, but keep yourself integrally involved in the process. Talk to her about her dates. Have her and her boyfriend over at YOUR house, watch movies in the living room with them, etc.
Make sure to keep the open and honest communication. You'll know when she starts ';kissing';, etc. If there comes a time when she wants birth control, remember how you felt as a confused adolescent. Talk to her, be open and honest, and by all means give her whatever resources she needs to be safe.
The last thing you want is for her to be sneaking around with some guy. By being flexible yet involved, I think you can do a great job of bringing your daughter into adulthood.
Granted my daughter is only 6, but what I've laid out is certainly the approach I plan to take with my own family when the time comes.
Best of luck to you!Need parental advice concerning teenage daughter.. she's about to be 15 in a few days. She wants to date and
Say she can date at 16..Maybe chaperone..like they go to the movies, you eat downstairs at the cafe..then take them home..I am sure at 20 she won't be mad that you looked out for her.
you need to win her heart the first! u know ur daughter well . teenagers basically think that they are the modern generation ppl and others are backward . its her age od discoveing ,experimenting as she doesent believe in not walking due to the fear of falling but wants to experience the fall!at her age probably she cant share everything wid u as she fears that ur reactions may change or u may ban her from something!she need 's even a person more than a friend to share her problem with whoo even loves her as not a daughter , friend but as a girl.make her understand the meaning of date! tell her not to take all these things of attraction to heart and affect wid her studies. as girls suffer heartbreaks 4 longer time. tell her to make wise descisons!
Just because ';they'; don't do the group dating thing....does not mean you don't....If she really wants to date at age 15 she has to work with you...how hard is it to get a group of guys and girls to go out to a movie??? My best dating experiences at that young age were the group dates...more people to talk to if things were to get boring with the guy...also there is less pressure to feel like you need to be romantic in a group setting.....I grew up religious and had certain standards to go by....I will give you a website to read this pamphlet and it does give a lot of good Ideas...so good luck.
if you don't think she makes good decisions, you shouldn't allow her to date.. you don't need to be ';fair'; you need to do what's in the best interest for your child.. if the cons of her dating outweigh the pros that significantly, tell her no.
um, not what you wanna hear but Birth control , and make sure she takes it.
Who's the mom here? If you don't feel as if she is ready to date, then don't let her! She might be mad, but YOU are the ultimate one who makes the decisions until she's 18. Being ';fair'; isn't always the best choice or decision! Stand your grounds! IF more parents would take efforts to control thier children, I don't believe there would be as much teenage sex or pregnancies. Good luck with your efforts.
Let her know that not being fully mature, dating can lead to dangerous situations. She may also be heart-broken easily or one too many times.
I think that making better decisions should be a prerequisite. It's hard to know what to say. You can hardly trust any young men today.
Where is her DAD? He really needs to be the strong influence here and make his presence known with her and the guys who come around? If there is no dad, you can fulfill that role, and you must.
Kids need your STRENGTH along with your love. If you have both, you will be the strongest influence in her life.
P.S. Ignore the stupid, idiotic, ridiculous advice by liberal Mark in the response below. People like him are the reason that many young people are messed up. I might add that THAT is what they're also teaching in sex ed classes, with insane liberals being the instructors and promoters.
Mark, seek mental therapy for your liberal condition.
Fashion advice? How to be fashionable? Teenage girl?
Hey I'm 13 and I dont really know how to be fashionable. I tried searching on the internet but most fashion is outrageous outfits no one would wear but on the catwalk, like massive dresses and hats. If I was doing to the movies, what could I wear to look good? What is 'in'? How do I be more fashionable?
Thanks!Fashion advice? How to be fashionable? Teenage girl?
For someone your age going to the movies, I would say a pair of skinny jeans, your favorite (kind of tight fitting) tee shirt, or a smock top, and a cardigan, with a thick belt. The kind of belt that goes over your midsection, not through your belt loops. Where the belt over the tee shirt, with the jacket on top. Wear a matching necklace, and a pair of high top converse. Converse is the most non descript shoe you can wear. Doesn't matter what 'clique' you're in. Everyone looks good in a pair of Chuck Taylors. (Converse.)Fashion advice? How to be fashionable? Teenage girl?
What's ';fashionable'; depends on where you live. I live in an area that is very humid and casual--everyone just wears T-shirt and shorts. The best way to look good in that type of climate is to spruce up your outfit with accessories. Buy some cute shoes or do your hair differently. Your clothes should fit, flattering your body (if you have chunkier legs don't wear skinny jeans, if you're an apple shape don't wear a super-tight tee). But if you live somewhere colder, the layering look is really sophisticated. Go for some V-neck long sleeves or a sweater that you can layer over a camisole or tank top. Look at some cute coats and jeans. Places like Ross or Goodwill is where you can get some stuff for cheap. Aeropostale is also really affordable. Look at people around you with an open, but strong mentality. Don't look at the popular chicks and want to wear what they've got on just because they're popular. Look at what they're wearing and assess their outfits, ';Hmm, I think that would look really good on me.';
If you were going to the movies, it is colder, so wear some jeans and a sweater. I personally like the blocky horitzontal striped ones. Layer it with a coat. Study a color wheel and find the colors that suit you best. Then find complimenting colors.
hope i helped. =)
Hey girl, you're in luck. I am a Fashion/Design Consultant.
First where are you from, I mean asia or europe or US ?
Different place different culture %26amp; different culture different fashion.
e.g in asia girls wear skirt or hot-pant because the weather here is very hot ( 30c+ in the winter ) so it's really depants on where you live.
Let me give some advice, for boys Black will make you look cool and for girls dark colour fashion will make you look sexier but light colour fashion will make you look younger %26amp; cuter.
Hope I can help. By the way....don't ever wear sunglass. It woun't look good for a teen to wear a sunglass. ( like over doing it )
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hey! im thirteen too! well this is what i usually wear when i go out with my friends - tank top with skinny jeans. in addition, i would put on my watch( those big, squared ones), and a simple necklace, with light make-up(the one that gives a fresh look). OR i would wear- tank tops(with a jacket(optional)) with short wavy skirts(above knee length) and sometimes, complete with a big belt! for shoes, you could put on sneakers or gladiator sandals or high-heeled sandals! good luck ;D, hope this will help you!
ok i was a fashion student heres my advice,
u can wear ';jeggings'; they are like leggings but look like jeans u mentioned it was hot you could wear this with a nice top go to www.riverisland.com and check out there style i can decide which one u like also wear chunky jewlerry this is in at the mo. try experimenting with different things till u know what u like. good luck x
13 is the age that is hard to be fashionable.
i am also thirteen, and i think it's most important to just be you'reself.. not one person is the same!
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Thanks!Fashion advice? How to be fashionable? Teenage girl?
For someone your age going to the movies, I would say a pair of skinny jeans, your favorite (kind of tight fitting) tee shirt, or a smock top, and a cardigan, with a thick belt. The kind of belt that goes over your midsection, not through your belt loops. Where the belt over the tee shirt, with the jacket on top. Wear a matching necklace, and a pair of high top converse. Converse is the most non descript shoe you can wear. Doesn't matter what 'clique' you're in. Everyone looks good in a pair of Chuck Taylors. (Converse.)Fashion advice? How to be fashionable? Teenage girl?
What's ';fashionable'; depends on where you live. I live in an area that is very humid and casual--everyone just wears T-shirt and shorts. The best way to look good in that type of climate is to spruce up your outfit with accessories. Buy some cute shoes or do your hair differently. Your clothes should fit, flattering your body (if you have chunkier legs don't wear skinny jeans, if you're an apple shape don't wear a super-tight tee). But if you live somewhere colder, the layering look is really sophisticated. Go for some V-neck long sleeves or a sweater that you can layer over a camisole or tank top. Look at some cute coats and jeans. Places like Ross or Goodwill is where you can get some stuff for cheap. Aeropostale is also really affordable. Look at people around you with an open, but strong mentality. Don't look at the popular chicks and want to wear what they've got on just because they're popular. Look at what they're wearing and assess their outfits, ';Hmm, I think that would look really good on me.';
If you were going to the movies, it is colder, so wear some jeans and a sweater. I personally like the blocky horitzontal striped ones. Layer it with a coat. Study a color wheel and find the colors that suit you best. Then find complimenting colors.
hope i helped. =)
Hey girl, you're in luck. I am a Fashion/Design Consultant.
First where are you from, I mean asia or europe or US ?
Different place different culture %26amp; different culture different fashion.
e.g in asia girls wear skirt or hot-pant because the weather here is very hot ( 30c+ in the winter ) so it's really depants on where you live.
Let me give some advice, for boys Black will make you look cool and for girls dark colour fashion will make you look sexier but light colour fashion will make you look younger %26amp; cuter.
Hope I can help. By the way....don't ever wear sunglass. It woun't look good for a teen to wear a sunglass. ( like over doing it )
: LowNardo
hey! im thirteen too! well this is what i usually wear when i go out with my friends - tank top with skinny jeans. in addition, i would put on my watch( those big, squared ones), and a simple necklace, with light make-up(the one that gives a fresh look). OR i would wear- tank tops(with a jacket(optional)) with short wavy skirts(above knee length) and sometimes, complete with a big belt! for shoes, you could put on sneakers or gladiator sandals or high-heeled sandals! good luck ;D, hope this will help you!
ok i was a fashion student heres my advice,
u can wear ';jeggings'; they are like leggings but look like jeans u mentioned it was hot you could wear this with a nice top go to www.riverisland.com and check out there style i can decide which one u like also wear chunky jewlerry this is in at the mo. try experimenting with different things till u know what u like. good luck x
13 is the age that is hard to be fashionable.
i am also thirteen, and i think it's most important to just be you'reself.. not one person is the same!
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Need some advice from teenage Christian girls/strong Christian women?
There's this guy on my swim team, but I'm not sure if he's a Christian, and I'm sort of afraid to ask. He's the sweetest guy I've ever met, and I really, really like him, but the Bible says:
';Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?';
I'm not sure what to do. Here I have this amazing guy, and then there's God. THE most amazing guy you haven't met/have met.
So what should I do?Need some advice from teenage Christian girls/strong Christian women?
Ask him. Kindly, and politely - ask him.
Fear is the opposite of faith. God said he will never leave or forsake you, so have confidence that God is with you - ';with soever thou goest.'; A good way would be to walk up to him, and ask him if he goes to church. If so, which and proceed to say have you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
I was interested in a really nice guy too. When I asked him as I happened to pass him in the hallway, he said he name wasn't Christian (ha, ha). Alternatively, he said he was not Christian and was of no particular religion.
You can do it. Just imagine walking hand in hand with Jesus. Ask Jesus to help you. This guy may be glad you asked.Need some advice from teenage Christian girls/strong Christian women?
If you don't want to be ';yoked'; with unbelievers then you should be going to a Christian school (and making whatever sacrifices it takes to do that). But that would be an overly strong interpretation of the word ';yoked';. If you aren't going to ask him out then the question becomes moot until he asks you out. But if you do ask him out and he accepts a date that is NOT being yoked. If you wind up going on a few dates, if the question hasn't already come up, then you can mention how strong your beliefs are and he'll probably tell you what his beliefs are. If not, you can ask. (Why do girls have to overanalyze everything?)
I wouldn't be too hung up on the doctrine of the Bible at this point because you don't even really even know the guy yet.
You need to get to know people for who they are and then make your decisions whether or not to date/hang out with them.
There are alot of believers that are not very good people, and alot of nonbelievers that are good people.
You can't judge everyone by a verse, you need to look at the facts, get to know the person, and listen to your gut instincts.
I would do 2 things...first i would just talk to him. Just simply ask him what does he believe. If he really is the sweetest guy you know, then there shouldn't be a problem there by just asking him. If he is not a christian, then just show him some verses in scripture like John 3:16. We really cant help but be associated with unbelievers. They are everywhere unfortunatley...work, school, restraunts, college, neighborhoods...but if he simply refuses to believe in God, then you really have no choice but to stay away from him. But the second thing I would do is just pray pray pray for your friend. Prayer is a strong thing! Hope this helps.
i dont think the bible is essentially saying ';hey! stay the heck away from dem dere unbelievers!';
if you like this guy then ask him out dont make it depend on his religion. if he is interested maybe you could show him your faith but only if he's interested and not on the first date or he'll think you're one of those people who just wanna convert you! lol
you've just said he's sweet and then you go on to say he's wickedness lol
chill! spread the love not the bible printouts
I am sure he won't be mad if you ask him in a polite way. He know that that is a concern for you. He might be disappointed in you asking him but that is the way to go or you could have somebody ask him for you maybe one of his old friend or so.
God is giving you a good husband so take him before somebody else do. Ha ha
God already knows who will be with and if you really like this guy talk to him and see if you share the same beliefs if not invite him to church with you.If he refuses I know there will be a lot of single guys at church that love Christ as much as you do
The best thing is to go out with a group of friends, and ';date'; that way. See if you can get a group together and ask him and his friends to join along. That's good advice for anyone, even if you know whether they follow the Lord or not.
Listen to this from experience. I am with a man who calls himself ';open-minded';. At times he brings me down because he is not as enthusiatic about Christ and church and leaning the Bible as I am. Be careful who you spend time with.
You should invite him to church. Don't start assuming that he isn't a Christian or anyhting if you haven't even asked him yet. GOD bless you!!!
What is more important to you? Choose and be happy with your choice.
Just a moment, while I roll up my sleeves.... Ahhh, that's better now, let's see.... First of all, Jesus hung out with non-believers from time to time. That's who He came to reveal Himself to. That's also what He calls us to do, reveal His Father's heart to others, whether they are believers or not.
The 'Yoked' that the Word of God is speaking of here is, about making 'covenants' (binding agreements) such as marriage with. ';Have no fear! Your Heavenly Father is near!'; O.K., that was 'not' what I was gonna' say, that's What I believe, God wanted me to tell you.
I would encourage you to invite him to a christian 'function' either at your church, or somewhere else. Like a christian concert or youth fellowship. Then you can determine where he stands on the 'God Subject' by his response. If he is as nice as you say, it may be because he already has a relationship with God himself and may be quiet about it because it isn't exactly a trendy thing among teenagers these days. I wish you all the best, geuinely nice guys are a rare breed, if nothing else, enjoy him as a good friend. God bless you. Sincerely, Rose
';Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?';
I'm not sure what to do. Here I have this amazing guy, and then there's God. THE most amazing guy you haven't met/have met.
So what should I do?Need some advice from teenage Christian girls/strong Christian women?
Ask him. Kindly, and politely - ask him.
Fear is the opposite of faith. God said he will never leave or forsake you, so have confidence that God is with you - ';with soever thou goest.'; A good way would be to walk up to him, and ask him if he goes to church. If so, which and proceed to say have you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
I was interested in a really nice guy too. When I asked him as I happened to pass him in the hallway, he said he name wasn't Christian (ha, ha). Alternatively, he said he was not Christian and was of no particular religion.
You can do it. Just imagine walking hand in hand with Jesus. Ask Jesus to help you. This guy may be glad you asked.Need some advice from teenage Christian girls/strong Christian women?
If you don't want to be ';yoked'; with unbelievers then you should be going to a Christian school (and making whatever sacrifices it takes to do that). But that would be an overly strong interpretation of the word ';yoked';. If you aren't going to ask him out then the question becomes moot until he asks you out. But if you do ask him out and he accepts a date that is NOT being yoked. If you wind up going on a few dates, if the question hasn't already come up, then you can mention how strong your beliefs are and he'll probably tell you what his beliefs are. If not, you can ask. (Why do girls have to overanalyze everything?)
I wouldn't be too hung up on the doctrine of the Bible at this point because you don't even really even know the guy yet.
You need to get to know people for who they are and then make your decisions whether or not to date/hang out with them.
There are alot of believers that are not very good people, and alot of nonbelievers that are good people.
You can't judge everyone by a verse, you need to look at the facts, get to know the person, and listen to your gut instincts.
I would do 2 things...first i would just talk to him. Just simply ask him what does he believe. If he really is the sweetest guy you know, then there shouldn't be a problem there by just asking him. If he is not a christian, then just show him some verses in scripture like John 3:16. We really cant help but be associated with unbelievers. They are everywhere unfortunatley...work, school, restraunts, college, neighborhoods...but if he simply refuses to believe in God, then you really have no choice but to stay away from him. But the second thing I would do is just pray pray pray for your friend. Prayer is a strong thing! Hope this helps.
i dont think the bible is essentially saying ';hey! stay the heck away from dem dere unbelievers!';
if you like this guy then ask him out dont make it depend on his religion. if he is interested maybe you could show him your faith but only if he's interested and not on the first date or he'll think you're one of those people who just wanna convert you! lol
you've just said he's sweet and then you go on to say he's wickedness lol
chill! spread the love not the bible printouts
I am sure he won't be mad if you ask him in a polite way. He know that that is a concern for you. He might be disappointed in you asking him but that is the way to go or you could have somebody ask him for you maybe one of his old friend or so.
God is giving you a good husband so take him before somebody else do. Ha ha
God already knows who will be with and if you really like this guy talk to him and see if you share the same beliefs if not invite him to church with you.If he refuses I know there will be a lot of single guys at church that love Christ as much as you do
The best thing is to go out with a group of friends, and ';date'; that way. See if you can get a group together and ask him and his friends to join along. That's good advice for anyone, even if you know whether they follow the Lord or not.
Listen to this from experience. I am with a man who calls himself ';open-minded';. At times he brings me down because he is not as enthusiatic about Christ and church and leaning the Bible as I am. Be careful who you spend time with.
You should invite him to church. Don't start assuming that he isn't a Christian or anyhting if you haven't even asked him yet. GOD bless you!!!
What is more important to you? Choose and be happy with your choice.
Just a moment, while I roll up my sleeves.... Ahhh, that's better now, let's see.... First of all, Jesus hung out with non-believers from time to time. That's who He came to reveal Himself to. That's also what He calls us to do, reveal His Father's heart to others, whether they are believers or not.
The 'Yoked' that the Word of God is speaking of here is, about making 'covenants' (binding agreements) such as marriage with. ';Have no fear! Your Heavenly Father is near!'; O.K., that was 'not' what I was gonna' say, that's What I believe, God wanted me to tell you.
I would encourage you to invite him to a christian 'function' either at your church, or somewhere else. Like a christian concert or youth fellowship. Then you can determine where he stands on the 'God Subject' by his response. If he is as nice as you say, it may be because he already has a relationship with God himself and may be quiet about it because it isn't exactly a trendy thing among teenagers these days. I wish you all the best, geuinely nice guys are a rare breed, if nothing else, enjoy him as a good friend. God bless you. Sincerely, Rose
Need advice on teenage drama...basically guy troubles :|?
Okay, I had a totally awesome best friend. I'd known him since what feels like the beginning of time. Around the beginning of this school year, I started to have a crush on him. I was hoping that it would be a small thing; that it would go away soon, so it wouldn't ruin our friendship.
However, he soon found out, and he started to ignore me, like I didn't exist in his life. I didn't really get it, and I still don't...we used to get along so well; we talked and joked and laughed every chance we got with each other. Now he's just abandoning me, all because of that.
Now and then, we talk sometimes, but only if he says something first. If I try to strike up a conversation, he'll ignore me like he heard nothing. Only the times when I look sad or start crying is when he goes back to his old self, but afterwards, he goes on ignoring me.
I still like him, but if I have to give up my feelings for him so we can be friends again, I'd do it. I really, really want him back in my life, but how? Has the damage gone too far already?Need advice on teenage drama...basically guy troubles :|?
He probobly likes you or he feels that if you were to start hanging out you would try something and he doesn't want to ruin your friendship, so hes staying away from you, trying to avoid you and trying not to hurt you.Need advice on teenage drama...basically guy troubles :|?
This is a dick move,
maybe the next time he talks to you, you tell him you have to talk to him. sit down and talk to him about this, keeping it in will make you more upset, explain to him that its not a choice when you like someone you just do. If this doesnt work then dont talk to him, if I were you id ignore him until he relalized what he was missing.
well girls tend to be more attached to their friendships but guys don't really care.. when guys ';dump'; you as a friend they really don't care about you any more.. in some cases.. he may feel weird around you now.. and this may sound weird but you need to be aggressive.. is he wont listen make him listen confront him and tell him that you aren't going to take his crap and that he needs to grow up!
yes, it has gone too far. but he probably doesn't know how to handle it or isn't ready for that kind of relationship. just leave him alone with time to think. he might come back.
If this friend of yours ignores you when you ask questions, he obviously wasn't that close to you. You may have got the wrong messages because of his hanging out with you. Maybe he doesn't know how to reject you, without hurting you with words. But at the same time, ignoring you speaking ,is worse. I've lost friends for lesser reasons and we must find new ones, as the friends I thought I had were only using me. Even today when I think back on those days ,I find more behaviour on their part to be insincere. Good Luck,.Miigwech
However, he soon found out, and he started to ignore me, like I didn't exist in his life. I didn't really get it, and I still don't...we used to get along so well; we talked and joked and laughed every chance we got with each other. Now he's just abandoning me, all because of that.
Now and then, we talk sometimes, but only if he says something first. If I try to strike up a conversation, he'll ignore me like he heard nothing. Only the times when I look sad or start crying is when he goes back to his old self, but afterwards, he goes on ignoring me.
I still like him, but if I have to give up my feelings for him so we can be friends again, I'd do it. I really, really want him back in my life, but how? Has the damage gone too far already?Need advice on teenage drama...basically guy troubles :|?
He probobly likes you or he feels that if you were to start hanging out you would try something and he doesn't want to ruin your friendship, so hes staying away from you, trying to avoid you and trying not to hurt you.Need advice on teenage drama...basically guy troubles :|?
This is a dick move,
maybe the next time he talks to you, you tell him you have to talk to him. sit down and talk to him about this, keeping it in will make you more upset, explain to him that its not a choice when you like someone you just do. If this doesnt work then dont talk to him, if I were you id ignore him until he relalized what he was missing.
well girls tend to be more attached to their friendships but guys don't really care.. when guys ';dump'; you as a friend they really don't care about you any more.. in some cases.. he may feel weird around you now.. and this may sound weird but you need to be aggressive.. is he wont listen make him listen confront him and tell him that you aren't going to take his crap and that he needs to grow up!
yes, it has gone too far. but he probably doesn't know how to handle it or isn't ready for that kind of relationship. just leave him alone with time to think. he might come back.
If this friend of yours ignores you when you ask questions, he obviously wasn't that close to you. You may have got the wrong messages because of his hanging out with you. Maybe he doesn't know how to reject you, without hurting you with words. But at the same time, ignoring you speaking ,is worse. I've lost friends for lesser reasons and we must find new ones, as the friends I thought I had were only using me. Even today when I think back on those days ,I find more behaviour on their part to be insincere. Good Luck,.Miigwech
Exercise advice for teenage girl?
hey guys i need some advice on what to do as an exercise routine.
if you saw my life style you'd realize how unhealthy i am. I have no diet i just eat what i want. i walk alot everyday since i live in the city, like a mile to the bus stop everyday and half a mile off the train to school, and then walking all over the city after school when i hang out with my friends. i jog about twice a week for an hour or so but that's mostly all of my exercise.
i weigh 120 pounds and i'm 5'1. is that healthy? all of my weight goes to my gut no lie it sucks.
so i'm wondering can somebody gimme some nice guidelines to follow to lose my gut? thanks.Exercise advice for teenage girl?
First off, you're at a normal weight. Check the source I went to if you don't believe me. Don't worry about your weight or whatever. Just because you walk a lot and jog twice a week doesn't mean that's helping you lose that gut. Yes it's exercise but it's not focusing on your stomach area. To lose your stomach you'll have to work on some ab exercises like crunches and sit ups as well as some aerobics. As for your diet, try not to eat whatever you want since that might not help you loose your gut. Don't get on a diet or anything just eat healthier foods in smaller portions and in more meals a day. Don't forget to drink water everyday. Hope that helps!Exercise advice for teenage girl?
It sounds like you get enough cardio from walking. do some cruches, and planks, get a hula hoop and hula away cut down on junk but don't cut way back on regular food
if you saw my life style you'd realize how unhealthy i am. I have no diet i just eat what i want. i walk alot everyday since i live in the city, like a mile to the bus stop everyday and half a mile off the train to school, and then walking all over the city after school when i hang out with my friends. i jog about twice a week for an hour or so but that's mostly all of my exercise.
i weigh 120 pounds and i'm 5'1. is that healthy? all of my weight goes to my gut no lie it sucks.
so i'm wondering can somebody gimme some nice guidelines to follow to lose my gut? thanks.Exercise advice for teenage girl?
First off, you're at a normal weight. Check the source I went to if you don't believe me. Don't worry about your weight or whatever. Just because you walk a lot and jog twice a week doesn't mean that's helping you lose that gut. Yes it's exercise but it's not focusing on your stomach area. To lose your stomach you'll have to work on some ab exercises like crunches and sit ups as well as some aerobics. As for your diet, try not to eat whatever you want since that might not help you loose your gut. Don't get on a diet or anything just eat healthier foods in smaller portions and in more meals a day. Don't forget to drink water everyday. Hope that helps!Exercise advice for teenage girl?
It sounds like you get enough cardio from walking. do some cruches, and planks, get a hula hoop and hula away cut down on junk but don't cut way back on regular food
Bra advice for teenage guy?
Alright, so I'm sixteen. And yea, i wear a bra. Confused about my sexuality. Might be bi, might not.
But I've just ';come out of the closet'; to some people about my bra secrecy. And they've been supported and told me they'll give me advice, whatever. I haven't started wearing one on a daily basis yet.
My questions are these.
How many bras should I own?
What bras do guys like most?
What bras do girls like most?
Padded or push up?
Should I start with a training or go straight to a cup size?
Where should I buy my bras?
What bra makes boobs look the best?
How often should I wash my bras?
ThanksBra advice for teenage guy?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Is that the scent of troll I sniff?Bra advice for teenage guy?
Well I am a girl I have 3 bras right now, and some sports bras. I have no clue which ones guys like most... Girls like better ones obviously, from victorias secret or fredericks of hollywood. Kohls has good ones too. Well you won't really need a pushup cuz your a guy, so try a padded one I guess. It doesn't matter about the cup size or training, whatever you feel more comfortable in. :) Wash them ever 3-5 days, with them hooked. Otherwise the hooks can break. Then hang them to dry. Good luck!
No offence or anything, but dude, your a guy. Guys do NOT have cleavage unless they get them added on by surgery. Wouldn't it be odd if you wore a bra with padding? Jeez. Creepy.
I personally think you should skip the bra thing.
You know what's odd? You sound like a troll. :
|You were born a guy, therefore you are a guy. Guys don't wear bras or any women's clothing. What is there to be confused about? And being gay or bisexual has nothing to do with cross dressing, which is what you are talking about.
Sounds like your not just bi or gay, your a transvestite.
Oh and to get more informative answers, ask this in the LGB%26amp;T section b/c I have no clue as to what kind of bras a guy prefers.
Even if your bi, your still a guy, you don't need a bra.
hun, I hate to break it to you... but, you don't have boobs...
Ask your mum Joan she needs to know about this.
A bra dude really?
Us guys were not meant to be wearing bras.
Answer to all your questions: NO.mascara makeup
But I've just ';come out of the closet'; to some people about my bra secrecy. And they've been supported and told me they'll give me advice, whatever. I haven't started wearing one on a daily basis yet.
My questions are these.
How many bras should I own?
What bras do guys like most?
What bras do girls like most?
Padded or push up?
Should I start with a training or go straight to a cup size?
Where should I buy my bras?
What bra makes boobs look the best?
How often should I wash my bras?
ThanksBra advice for teenage guy?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Is that the scent of troll I sniff?Bra advice for teenage guy?
Well I am a girl I have 3 bras right now, and some sports bras. I have no clue which ones guys like most... Girls like better ones obviously, from victorias secret or fredericks of hollywood. Kohls has good ones too. Well you won't really need a pushup cuz your a guy, so try a padded one I guess. It doesn't matter about the cup size or training, whatever you feel more comfortable in. :) Wash them ever 3-5 days, with them hooked. Otherwise the hooks can break. Then hang them to dry. Good luck!
No offence or anything, but dude, your a guy. Guys do NOT have cleavage unless they get them added on by surgery. Wouldn't it be odd if you wore a bra with padding? Jeez. Creepy.
I personally think you should skip the bra thing.
You know what's odd? You sound like a troll. :
|You were born a guy, therefore you are a guy. Guys don't wear bras or any women's clothing. What is there to be confused about? And being gay or bisexual has nothing to do with cross dressing, which is what you are talking about.
Sounds like your not just bi or gay, your a transvestite.
Oh and to get more informative answers, ask this in the LGB%26amp;T section b/c I have no clue as to what kind of bras a guy prefers.
Even if your bi, your still a guy, you don't need a bra.
hun, I hate to break it to you... but, you don't have boobs...
Ask your mum Joan she needs to know about this.
A bra dude really?
Us guys were not meant to be wearing bras.
Answer to all your questions: NO.
Parenting advice - Naive teenage girl!!!!?
OK - i have a problem!! I'm very annoyed!!
I'm not a parent but i am a brother... my younger sister is 13 yrs old... over the last 2-3 months she has gone from being a young girl to a young lady... and has gone from hating boys to loving them!
She told me she had a date... and was hazey on the details... to cut a long story short i went on her computer to try and find out more aout the lad on a socialising website she uses!!.... she told me this boy was13 and lives in our city!... i found out she was completly lying!!!%26gt;.. it appears she has met him online!.... he lives 100 miles away and worst of it is he's 17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She is completely naive and i am gutted at the lies she has told!!
Now i know i need to do sometyhing but my question is what??
The obvious thing is tell our parents... BUT that has its drawbacks... i know that they will fly completly off the handle... they will take her comp/phone etc away and after 3 months shell prob have it all back... and shell do it again but be more secretive!
Or do i tackle her about it?..... and try offeringher advice and risk again that she is more secretive in the future??
I am scared of her just doing something similar in the future.... she is so naive and doesnt realise the dangers she is putting herself in!!???
Any help will be muchly appreciated!!!
Thanks. Parenting advice - Naive teenage girl!!!!?
Ok - my first thought is always to check on this website if people are serious or not. Your other questions are private so I can't tell if you are playing with us or not.
I suspect not. I hope not, because you have just made a lot of women very, very happy. Your concern for your sister is lovely - and very sweet.
You say that she is 'totally naive' yet she is lying to you? Hmm. Not naive. Clever, manipulative, shadowy, secretive.... FEMALE AND TEENAGE!
Look- your a sweety - don't go to your parent's - they will go bezurk. I think you should speak to her -say - I know your seeing someone - don't back her into a corner - remember where you are in your life - don't discriminate just because she is a girl - remember she is in someways more mature - sit on her bed, share a pizza and say 'sis... where are you with boys etc at the mo? cos (and you going to find this bit difficult) I'm your bro - and I love you, and I'm looking out for you.,'
Keep it between you at the mo - you have more power than your parents in some ways - your parents will make her angry and defensive, you can get her onside and watch what is going on.
What a lovely brother you are.Parenting advice - Naive teenage girl!!!!?
That's quite a situation.
Talk to her about it, relate with stories if you can. She'll probably throw a fit, but let it pass and keep persisting. She needs to know why it's wrong.
Perhaps you could contact the guy through facebook or something, tell him you want him to back off (in a polite way), or you'll report him.
You need to tell your parents about it, but make sure that they understand that keeping her away from communication will do nothing to help. They need to explain to her the dangers of what she is doing.
Tell your parents, report the 17-year old guy, and tell her that he lives 100 miles away and doesn't even know who she is.
You're her brother. Butt out and stop invading her privacy.
Google some stories on little girls like her that were raped and murdered by the guys that they met online and show her.
wow the guy is 17 and she is 13 why cant the guy find a girl his age instead of going out with a kid i think we may have just found the next garry glitter
Your parents need to know whats going on, consequences are up to them and hopefully they will start monitoring you sister on the computer or put it in a central area in the home where she can't hide information. You are the brother and have every right to be concerned but you can't really discipline your sister, if something happens your parents need to know. Tell your parents your concerns, and let your sister know you will be speaking with them. You could ask them to take her to the police department to talk with an officer who may have worked a case involving online solicitation.
Spy on them online with a fake avatar. I'm sure you know how.
See what you can get out of this guy online by posing as a girl on a chat site with a fake photo. My guess is this guy isn't even 17, he's prolly 30 and a perv.
Also, you can talk to her honestly and tell her she is in danger. Make sure she knows she can call you any time on your cell or whatever.
Maybe you can discuss something about computer monitoring or something with your parents, but in a way that makes you innocent of telling them about the ';date'; but yet increases parental observation.
In other words, be sneakier than she is.
I understand your concern,what she is doing is very dangerous.She really does not know who this is she is talking to ,he could be a predetor.I would talk to another adult that you trust maybe even a police officer,he will be able to direct you in this situation.They may want to follow her on this secret meeting.Stick with your gut instinct
and protect your sister...By the way,,you are a good brother:)
ha this is a tricky one..im 17
at that age girls are extremely sensitive about the whole boy thing and privacy is something that is treasured. I think the best way to approach it is by talking to her about the boy that shes dating..ask her querstions about where she met him things like that..and then gradually talk to her about how online dating is unsafe. Dont grill her though that will just piss her off.
hope that helps..girls are complicated especially at that age.
-danii-
I think it was a bit harsh to go on your sisters computer, but I guess you had a reason to. To be honest I would talk to her about, don't get your parents involved unless she does it again. Don't just shout at her for doing it, as that will lead to rebelling. I cant say she's gonna wanna listen to you when you decide what to tell her, but good luck.
you say you're taking her for ice cream and then while you two are walking or driving you ease yourself into the subject:
you: about your date that day what happened?
her:?????
you:we should go see him since he lives so close to us.
her: (excuses not to go see him)
you: well i want to talk to him on the phone just to see what he sounds like.
her:????????
you: is there something you're not telling me?
(don't ever leave the subject until she confesses)
GOOD LUCK!!
90% of websites like that (especially myspace) people don't put their real information. My myspace says I am 89 years old and live in Neece, France! I'm 13 and live in the US, and my friends who get on there know it. It also doesn't mean her boyfriends a liar.
Just ask her about it and DON'T tell your parents. That always causes more harm than good.
PLEASE PLEASE don't get your sister in trouble!! I'm sure he's not really 17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?br>
Also, tell her that you will tell the parents if she doesn't let you read what they've been saying to each other. If he says ';Don't tell your mom'; or ';I understand you'; then he's probably an online predator. If he says normal boy stuff, or especially specific events that went on at school, im sure he's just an average boy.
**Also!! Offer to drive her. That way you can see if its a nice boy or a creep. I know I'd prefer my school older brother escorting me than my parents.
Take her on a surprise trip down to your local police department (arrange it with them before hand) and let them give her a mini lecture on the dangers of Internet activities with similar circumstances. And put a limitation on her computer internet access, so that she cannot im or chat with anyone (unless you plug in the name to her computer, and you will only plug in a name after you've chatted with that friend of hers on the phone for a couple of minutes) and that will stay that way till she turns 18 since she already proved herself to be not responsible enough as you yourself described her actions.
Teach her about paedophiles, show her this http://uk.youtube.com/results?search_que鈥?/a>
this '17' year old is probably 50, you have a right to be concerned!
I would talk to her and get her to see sense, tell her that if she plans to meet this guy then you WILL tell your parents, not to be a nag but to protect her from harm.
keep on being the caring excellent brother you are, without you she would be in real danger!
good luck
I'm not a parent but i am a brother... my younger sister is 13 yrs old... over the last 2-3 months she has gone from being a young girl to a young lady... and has gone from hating boys to loving them!
She told me she had a date... and was hazey on the details... to cut a long story short i went on her computer to try and find out more aout the lad on a socialising website she uses!!.... she told me this boy was13 and lives in our city!... i found out she was completly lying!!!%26gt;.. it appears she has met him online!.... he lives 100 miles away and worst of it is he's 17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She is completely naive and i am gutted at the lies she has told!!
Now i know i need to do sometyhing but my question is what??
The obvious thing is tell our parents... BUT that has its drawbacks... i know that they will fly completly off the handle... they will take her comp/phone etc away and after 3 months shell prob have it all back... and shell do it again but be more secretive!
Or do i tackle her about it?..... and try offeringher advice and risk again that she is more secretive in the future??
I am scared of her just doing something similar in the future.... she is so naive and doesnt realise the dangers she is putting herself in!!???
Any help will be muchly appreciated!!!
Thanks. Parenting advice - Naive teenage girl!!!!?
Ok - my first thought is always to check on this website if people are serious or not. Your other questions are private so I can't tell if you are playing with us or not.
I suspect not. I hope not, because you have just made a lot of women very, very happy. Your concern for your sister is lovely - and very sweet.
You say that she is 'totally naive' yet she is lying to you? Hmm. Not naive. Clever, manipulative, shadowy, secretive.... FEMALE AND TEENAGE!
Look- your a sweety - don't go to your parent's - they will go bezurk. I think you should speak to her -say - I know your seeing someone - don't back her into a corner - remember where you are in your life - don't discriminate just because she is a girl - remember she is in someways more mature - sit on her bed, share a pizza and say 'sis... where are you with boys etc at the mo? cos (and you going to find this bit difficult) I'm your bro - and I love you, and I'm looking out for you.,'
Keep it between you at the mo - you have more power than your parents in some ways - your parents will make her angry and defensive, you can get her onside and watch what is going on.
What a lovely brother you are.Parenting advice - Naive teenage girl!!!!?
That's quite a situation.
Talk to her about it, relate with stories if you can. She'll probably throw a fit, but let it pass and keep persisting. She needs to know why it's wrong.
Perhaps you could contact the guy through facebook or something, tell him you want him to back off (in a polite way), or you'll report him.
You need to tell your parents about it, but make sure that they understand that keeping her away from communication will do nothing to help. They need to explain to her the dangers of what she is doing.
Tell your parents, report the 17-year old guy, and tell her that he lives 100 miles away and doesn't even know who she is.
You're her brother. Butt out and stop invading her privacy.
Google some stories on little girls like her that were raped and murdered by the guys that they met online and show her.
wow the guy is 17 and she is 13 why cant the guy find a girl his age instead of going out with a kid i think we may have just found the next garry glitter
Your parents need to know whats going on, consequences are up to them and hopefully they will start monitoring you sister on the computer or put it in a central area in the home where she can't hide information. You are the brother and have every right to be concerned but you can't really discipline your sister, if something happens your parents need to know. Tell your parents your concerns, and let your sister know you will be speaking with them. You could ask them to take her to the police department to talk with an officer who may have worked a case involving online solicitation.
Spy on them online with a fake avatar. I'm sure you know how.
See what you can get out of this guy online by posing as a girl on a chat site with a fake photo. My guess is this guy isn't even 17, he's prolly 30 and a perv.
Also, you can talk to her honestly and tell her she is in danger. Make sure she knows she can call you any time on your cell or whatever.
Maybe you can discuss something about computer monitoring or something with your parents, but in a way that makes you innocent of telling them about the ';date'; but yet increases parental observation.
In other words, be sneakier than she is.
I understand your concern,what she is doing is very dangerous.She really does not know who this is she is talking to ,he could be a predetor.I would talk to another adult that you trust maybe even a police officer,he will be able to direct you in this situation.They may want to follow her on this secret meeting.Stick with your gut instinct
and protect your sister...By the way,,you are a good brother:)
ha this is a tricky one..im 17
at that age girls are extremely sensitive about the whole boy thing and privacy is something that is treasured. I think the best way to approach it is by talking to her about the boy that shes dating..ask her querstions about where she met him things like that..and then gradually talk to her about how online dating is unsafe. Dont grill her though that will just piss her off.
hope that helps..girls are complicated especially at that age.
-danii-
I think it was a bit harsh to go on your sisters computer, but I guess you had a reason to. To be honest I would talk to her about, don't get your parents involved unless she does it again. Don't just shout at her for doing it, as that will lead to rebelling. I cant say she's gonna wanna listen to you when you decide what to tell her, but good luck.
you say you're taking her for ice cream and then while you two are walking or driving you ease yourself into the subject:
you: about your date that day what happened?
her:?????
you:we should go see him since he lives so close to us.
her: (excuses not to go see him)
you: well i want to talk to him on the phone just to see what he sounds like.
her:????????
you: is there something you're not telling me?
(don't ever leave the subject until she confesses)
GOOD LUCK!!
90% of websites like that (especially myspace) people don't put their real information. My myspace says I am 89 years old and live in Neece, France! I'm 13 and live in the US, and my friends who get on there know it. It also doesn't mean her boyfriends a liar.
Just ask her about it and DON'T tell your parents. That always causes more harm than good.
PLEASE PLEASE don't get your sister in trouble!! I'm sure he's not really 17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?br>
Also, tell her that you will tell the parents if she doesn't let you read what they've been saying to each other. If he says ';Don't tell your mom'; or ';I understand you'; then he's probably an online predator. If he says normal boy stuff, or especially specific events that went on at school, im sure he's just an average boy.
**Also!! Offer to drive her. That way you can see if its a nice boy or a creep. I know I'd prefer my school older brother escorting me than my parents.
Take her on a surprise trip down to your local police department (arrange it with them before hand) and let them give her a mini lecture on the dangers of Internet activities with similar circumstances. And put a limitation on her computer internet access, so that she cannot im or chat with anyone (unless you plug in the name to her computer, and you will only plug in a name after you've chatted with that friend of hers on the phone for a couple of minutes) and that will stay that way till she turns 18 since she already proved herself to be not responsible enough as you yourself described her actions.
Teach her about paedophiles, show her this http://uk.youtube.com/results?search_que鈥?/a>
this '17' year old is probably 50, you have a right to be concerned!
I would talk to her and get her to see sense, tell her that if she plans to meet this guy then you WILL tell your parents, not to be a nag but to protect her from harm.
keep on being the caring excellent brother you are, without you she would be in real danger!
good luck
Need advice from teenage to adults about this?
I just know this guy for a week but we share MANY similarities ad we talk for 6 hours everyday on phone.He always flirts with me,sayng i love you as a friend.He said I'm cute and has a great personality.But everytime I hint that I like him more than a friend,he would quickly say he likes me just as a friend or he would tell me he just met this hot girl.He ever said to me '; I might like you more than friend but now I just like you as a friend';
Is he worth my time?
Will he ever like me?
How to make him miss me so that he may start to like me?
He said he has a crush and I know it's not me.He's 15 and I'm 16.
Please don't say we should concentrate in our studiesNeed advice from teenage to adults about this?
Love yourself first before you invite the love of others...
Is he worth my time?
Will he ever like me?
How to make him miss me so that he may start to like me?
He said he has a crush and I know it's not me.He's 15 and I'm 16.
Please don't say we should concentrate in our studiesNeed advice from teenage to adults about this?
Love yourself first before you invite the love of others...
Need advice from teenage guys - lost cause?
So I really like this boy that I have barely spoken directly to because I'm a weeny. lol but anyway, we know each other because of having classes together and being on the same academic team.
I added him on facebook and commented him once and he responded. Then, a few weeks later, I messaged him again with a question and no answer. I didn't really think anything of it.
But TODAY I IMed him on facebook, and just said hey, and never got an answer.
Now, I'm not an idiot. I know all signs point to he probably doesn't like me. But I'm wondering if there is still a chance? I mean he is fairly quiet, and he could seem uncomfortable because I haven't spoken to him in person a lot.
So lemme know; should I just try to get over him? We have a week for spring break and I could begin to get over him if I need to, lol.
Thanks in advance for the advice!Need advice from teenage guys - lost cause?
to talk to him face to face
I added him on facebook and commented him once and he responded. Then, a few weeks later, I messaged him again with a question and no answer. I didn't really think anything of it.
But TODAY I IMed him on facebook, and just said hey, and never got an answer.
Now, I'm not an idiot. I know all signs point to he probably doesn't like me. But I'm wondering if there is still a chance? I mean he is fairly quiet, and he could seem uncomfortable because I haven't spoken to him in person a lot.
So lemme know; should I just try to get over him? We have a week for spring break and I could begin to get over him if I need to, lol.
Thanks in advance for the advice!Need advice from teenage guys - lost cause?
to talk to him face to face
Relationship Advice for Teenage Guys?
OK. This has happened twice to me. A girl texts me or calls me and tells me that she likes me, and in both cases I liked them back so I ask them if they wanted to go out with me. They both thought about it for a few days and said no. I think that I'm using the wrong wording for ';Will you go out with me?'; and I need to make it sound like less of a commitment to just start out with. Do you think that ';Do you want to do something?'; or ';Do you want to go somewhere sometime?'; or something like that would work better?Relationship Advice for Teenage Guys?
i think that the ';first date'; shouldent be a ';first date';
just ask
';hey im going to get some icecream with my friend, u want to come with?';
and then when the time comes say
';my friends mom called and said he had a doctors apointment she forgot to tell him about and he had to go today for a check up so he coldent come, so we are stuck together i guess *light and fun, quick laugh*';
and then play it cool from thier my brotha
if she needs a ride then provide a ride
cause thats what men do, they find rides
wich u well
ps ';do u want to do something'; is the winner in my book :DRelationship Advice for Teenage Guys?
well, ';do you want to go to a movie sometime?'; is different than ';will you go out with me?';
The first means A DATE which, at the end of one or two, you can ask her ';Will you go out with me?';
start by asking to hang out and work your way in from there. but take it slow and dont get in over your head if it all goes well. I did and now it isnt looking good. anyway, try the date first, then ask the other. Good luck, man
from a girls opinion-
get to know the girl better first
then try to get to know her sister[if she has one] and her good friends
if she truely likes a guy, they would be the first to know
then when asking her out, ask her if she would like to hang out sometime, maybe a causual movie%26amp;dinner thing. and maybe ask her in person and in front of people. girls like it when guys pay attention to them in front of their friends. good luck!
well they seem like they might have some commitment issues, or they are just confused, another factor is weather or not that you respond back right away, make sure that you don't take to long, because girls hate that, then they get second thoughts, if they say no if they tell you already that they like you then they aren't worth the trouble. you should ask them if they would like to hang out sometime, but instead of letting them choose the activity have aplan already, like say, ';do you want to go to the movies with me, i was planning on going, but it would be cool if i had someone with me,'; they would jump at the oppertunity
when they text you and tell you they like you, tell them you like them back, something cute like:
';i really like you too, you're amazing :)';
DONT ask them out straight away, leave it a couple of days and say something like:
';do you wanna go to the cinema on saturday? i've got nothing to do';
keep it cool and casual, and if a girl turns you down then it's her loss :)
good luck!
I think ';Will you go out with me?'; is fine. Although i don't know why those girls said they liked you, but when you asked them out they turned you down...I guess they just don't want the commitment, like you said. Maybe next time you should say you like them back, but leave it at that to see if you can tell if she really wants to get out of the friend zone, or if she just thinks your hot.
hey im 14 and was in the same situation a while ago- i just broke up with her btw. anyway it depends what type of girl she is.if they are the type of girl u think that u would want a longer relationship with then go for it with ' will u go out with me' but if u just want to try it for a while ( like i did ) then maybe try and suprise her with a kiss one day. U could have like a group outing with ur friends form shcool and invite her- then u could kiss her and then be in a realtionship without asking her. OR finally go to a rave. lol then u can get her drunk and get off with her- next day- your in.
wow that was long
I think you're right. They might be misunderstanding your intentions. Try something like, ';Great! Let's go do something fun together! What do you like to do?'; Better yet, talk to them in person. Text messaging is great for little bits of information, but is sucks for real communication, especially relationship stuff.
Yeah I would not say ';Will you go out with me?'; because it sounds way too serious...they probably just want to hang out with you and get to know you better and then you can step it up and ask to get more serious...Just be like ';Hey...what are you doing friday? Do you want to hang out'; or something like that...just act like shes a guy friend to keep it cool
:) good luck!!
I'm a girl. Don't come straight out. Get closer to them, hang out, text jokes, but don't ask them out right away. We freak out. Don't wait for them to make the first move. You could show up at their doors with flowers and chocolate, we can't say no because we feel bad if we don't. Once she's agreed, plan carefully. NO CASUAL. NO SUPER FANCY. A nice lunch, or dinner, and a movie. Show her what a great guy you are. No pressure though. DON'T RUSH IT!!!!
yea, you should probably just say would u like to hang out sometime or go to a movie with me. something like that. ';will you go out with me'; is generally taken as will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend. which is pretty dumb bc ur not asking, will you be my gilfriend/boyfriend. lol but just something more casual would probably be better to ask! hope i could help!
you can try to ask that, but be careful because u don't want to seem too desperate. because if u seem to desperate its not going to matter how you ask it, they will still say no.
you could always just go after one of these girls, and put all ur efforts into one?
I would probably ask something like ';Wanna go to a movie?'; or something specific. ';Do you want to go somewhere sometime? and Do you want to do something? both sound a little fishy- like you're looking for casual sex.
when they tell you they like you dont jump to the asking out part right away. just say cool i like you too. but dont go for the commitment. just ask them if they wanna hang out sometime.
Say something like, ';We should hang out sometime.'; It doesn't some as commited. Or you could suggest a group date, that doesn't sound as pressured. :]
Good luck!
You should just say do u wanna hang out sometime or go out for pizza . that way it wont be a commitment :)
';Lets make it official';
ya that sounds better '; do you want.......';
try it again
and good luck
yeah just say ';wanna hang out'; :)
just next time you see her rape her thatll work
i think that the ';first date'; shouldent be a ';first date';
just ask
';hey im going to get some icecream with my friend, u want to come with?';
and then when the time comes say
';my friends mom called and said he had a doctors apointment she forgot to tell him about and he had to go today for a check up so he coldent come, so we are stuck together i guess *light and fun, quick laugh*';
and then play it cool from thier my brotha
if she needs a ride then provide a ride
cause thats what men do, they find rides
wich u well
ps ';do u want to do something'; is the winner in my book :DRelationship Advice for Teenage Guys?
well, ';do you want to go to a movie sometime?'; is different than ';will you go out with me?';
The first means A DATE which, at the end of one or two, you can ask her ';Will you go out with me?';
start by asking to hang out and work your way in from there. but take it slow and dont get in over your head if it all goes well. I did and now it isnt looking good. anyway, try the date first, then ask the other. Good luck, man
from a girls opinion-
get to know the girl better first
then try to get to know her sister[if she has one] and her good friends
if she truely likes a guy, they would be the first to know
then when asking her out, ask her if she would like to hang out sometime, maybe a causual movie%26amp;dinner thing. and maybe ask her in person and in front of people. girls like it when guys pay attention to them in front of their friends. good luck!
well they seem like they might have some commitment issues, or they are just confused, another factor is weather or not that you respond back right away, make sure that you don't take to long, because girls hate that, then they get second thoughts, if they say no if they tell you already that they like you then they aren't worth the trouble. you should ask them if they would like to hang out sometime, but instead of letting them choose the activity have aplan already, like say, ';do you want to go to the movies with me, i was planning on going, but it would be cool if i had someone with me,'; they would jump at the oppertunity
when they text you and tell you they like you, tell them you like them back, something cute like:
';i really like you too, you're amazing :)';
DONT ask them out straight away, leave it a couple of days and say something like:
';do you wanna go to the cinema on saturday? i've got nothing to do';
keep it cool and casual, and if a girl turns you down then it's her loss :)
good luck!
I think ';Will you go out with me?'; is fine. Although i don't know why those girls said they liked you, but when you asked them out they turned you down...I guess they just don't want the commitment, like you said. Maybe next time you should say you like them back, but leave it at that to see if you can tell if she really wants to get out of the friend zone, or if she just thinks your hot.
hey im 14 and was in the same situation a while ago- i just broke up with her btw. anyway it depends what type of girl she is.if they are the type of girl u think that u would want a longer relationship with then go for it with ' will u go out with me' but if u just want to try it for a while ( like i did ) then maybe try and suprise her with a kiss one day. U could have like a group outing with ur friends form shcool and invite her- then u could kiss her and then be in a realtionship without asking her. OR finally go to a rave. lol then u can get her drunk and get off with her- next day- your in.
wow that was long
I think you're right. They might be misunderstanding your intentions. Try something like, ';Great! Let's go do something fun together! What do you like to do?'; Better yet, talk to them in person. Text messaging is great for little bits of information, but is sucks for real communication, especially relationship stuff.
Yeah I would not say ';Will you go out with me?'; because it sounds way too serious...they probably just want to hang out with you and get to know you better and then you can step it up and ask to get more serious...Just be like ';Hey...what are you doing friday? Do you want to hang out'; or something like that...just act like shes a guy friend to keep it cool
:) good luck!!
I'm a girl. Don't come straight out. Get closer to them, hang out, text jokes, but don't ask them out right away. We freak out. Don't wait for them to make the first move. You could show up at their doors with flowers and chocolate, we can't say no because we feel bad if we don't. Once she's agreed, plan carefully. NO CASUAL. NO SUPER FANCY. A nice lunch, or dinner, and a movie. Show her what a great guy you are. No pressure though. DON'T RUSH IT!!!!
yea, you should probably just say would u like to hang out sometime or go to a movie with me. something like that. ';will you go out with me'; is generally taken as will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend. which is pretty dumb bc ur not asking, will you be my gilfriend/boyfriend. lol but just something more casual would probably be better to ask! hope i could help!
you can try to ask that, but be careful because u don't want to seem too desperate. because if u seem to desperate its not going to matter how you ask it, they will still say no.
you could always just go after one of these girls, and put all ur efforts into one?
I would probably ask something like ';Wanna go to a movie?'; or something specific. ';Do you want to go somewhere sometime? and Do you want to do something? both sound a little fishy- like you're looking for casual sex.
when they tell you they like you dont jump to the asking out part right away. just say cool i like you too. but dont go for the commitment. just ask them if they wanna hang out sometime.
Say something like, ';We should hang out sometime.'; It doesn't some as commited. Or you could suggest a group date, that doesn't sound as pressured. :]
Good luck!
You should just say do u wanna hang out sometime or go out for pizza . that way it wont be a commitment :)
';Lets make it official';
ya that sounds better '; do you want.......';
try it again
and good luck
yeah just say ';wanna hang out'; :)
just next time you see her rape her thatll work
Need advice on teenage daughter.......?
starting to notice she is in to boys. when i ask her about it, she tells me no. i looked on her myspace and its a whole different story. she is taking a survey and when it asked if shes kissed a boy, it says yes. i have always told her to never lie to me, and that she can talk to me about anything. IM NOT READY FOR THIS BOY THING. why would she lie to me??Need advice on teenage daughter.......?
to be entirely honest..
u cant stop her.
unless u lock her up in the house with no1 but you..
and i suppose u would not do that so lets look at reality.
to be honest...since u cant stp her seeing her boyfriend if she does have one etc then make sure she knows that ur there for her ..
that is all u can do...i mean..any other ideas? its all about trust and when she will want to talk about stuff she will,when she is ready...until then its worse to push her into it...that would show that ur desperate to get into her life,and i bet ur just trying to be a good mom....but she will not see it that way..
p.s kissing is not bad,as long as she knows that boundaries..Need advice on teenage daughter.......?
im 16 i use to date older men and lie to my mom. i use to date older men. i mean she is 13 of corse she already had a kiss. she don't want u to be snoppy she is afraid of wht u will say. and she wants to fit in. she may be hngin with the wrong pple look how many teens are prego she maybe the next
Firstly, if you logged in as your daughters on her myspace you need to stop doing that and give her some privacy to live her own life.
Now, I'm 15 and I don't tell my mum everything because it's just weird to talk to your mum about some things (especially because my family would tease me) and it can be a bit embarrassing. I never told my mum about my first kiss because I knew she'd make a big thing of it.
She could also be lying because she's scared about what you will think, whether she is allowed a boyfriend or not.
Also, the chances are she hasn't kissed a boy and was lying on the survey because of peer pressure and all that.
Don't confront her about it; she will talk to you about it when she needs you, but for now you should respect her privacy and give her space to grow and make her own mistakes.
Because shes a teenager and they dont think its cool to talk to there mothers about anything. Well shes going to regret that decision trust me i was there not to long ago. Teenagers think they know whats best for them there old enough to drive and they ';know everything';. She isnt going to tell you chances are the only time she may come to talk to you is when one of these boys break her heart. Theres really nothing you can do unless you want to ground her from the myspace for lying but then shed know you spied on her and she would rebel even more you really just have to wait it out because the more you discipline her the more shes going to want to do things she shouldnt. Dont get me wrong when she messes up still discipline her. Just try to wait it out think about it this way your the most important to her and one of these days your the first person shes going to want to go to. Sorry i couldnt really help that much but good luck
Hello,
Ok look I know this is hard, but this is what teenagers do, not all but most teen girls are embarrassed about talking to their parents about boys and these strange feelings they have. If she really needs you I trust she will go to you for help. You need to be more open with her show that you can share things and don't ask her again again about boys. Things that will put her off talking to you is if you will make a big deal out of it or especially if you tell people she has a boyfriend. I know that put m,e of telling my mum, as much as I loved her I knew she would tell my family and make a deal out of it. So don't worry about it, maybe ask now or then whats her boyfriend called or if she would like to ask him over, act like this is no big deal. Also keep calm, all teenagers have crushes and kisses nothing to worry about, its better you open with her so if she needs to she can go to you for advice. Good luck kerry x
Are you friends with her on her myspace, or are you logging in to see what she's saying? If it's the latter, then that's a little odd. Maybe she can sense that you're not ready for the whole ';boy thing';, so she just doesn't tell you. And it's just a kiss (maybe), it's not really all that harmful.
Pick your battle. You can choose to confront her or you can choose to just keep trying to talk to her about it. You're the parent here.
She lied for the same reason I never told my parents about my love life, I didn't feel like I could talk to them about it and to a certain extent I was embarrassed.
If I was you don't mention anything about her myspace page but just start telling her about when you were her age and the boys you were into and kissed, then ask her if there are any boys she likes. This to me is a trust issue that you need to work on and you need to start off slow. If she starts to tell you stuff that freaks you out DON'T preach at her like my dad did to me, that is a sure way to get a kid to shut down on you.
Maybe she was lying on the MySpace -- she probably didn't want to look inexperienced and awkward.
Did you specifically ASK her if she's kissed a guy? If not, then how is she lying? :-) Kids will be extremely literal when it suits them to answer a question -- you just have to know which questions to ask. And maybe she doesn't WANT to talk to you about it. Honestly, what could she say? ';I kissed a guy at so-and-so's party!'; How is that information helpful to you? You're getting so worked up over a stupid MySpace survey, I'm sure she's leery of telling you ANYTHING for fear of you going ballistic!
Let's face it -- you know she's a teenager, you know that, if she's a normal kid, she's going to be interested in guys. Keep a close eye on her activities, where she's going, who she's going with, continue to maintain appropriate supervision, and don't be afraid to talk to her about sex. If you aren't comfortable talking about sex with her, try watching ';Secret Life of the American Teenager'; together and talk about it -- i.e., let her talk about it, and YOU listen.
Don't panic. You'll get through this!
How old is she? She is proabably afraid you will freak out on her if she told you the truth. Then again she may just be putting that stuff on there and not even doing that stuff. Peer pressure is a b**** and jsut gets worse every school year. And even though you told her that she can tell you anything she may think, ';yea she is just saying that to get me to tell her stuff and when i do i am going to be in trouble.'; she will come around one day.
well have a sit down talk with her, tell her whether not she is in to boys or not she should knows this for when she is in to boys.
and tell her how you feel, be honest. tell her you trust her but you have heard stories and you don't want those things to happen to her. tell her you think you might be over reacting and might have more moments like that but she should know how you feel.
tell her everything you think she should know tell her what happened to you. be honest with her and she will be honest with you. if she is not then at the very least you know you tried you best and hardest.
im a 14 year old .im a teenager too and even if i was in her place i would have lied too cause teens know that parents will not like it if we get boyfriends.just relax,take it easy.she is grown up and she can handle it just like most of kids her age.everyone in her school must be having one and its alright to have one.
and ya you are getting worried that she is not ready for all this.
why? its her life and she is ready to have a boy!its just you who thinks she is still a little baby.
JUST CAUSE YOU ARE NOT READY DOSE NOT MEAN SHE IS NOT READY.
let her live her life!
she lies to you cause she knows you wont appreciate it.and its not cool to talk about these things to moms and dads,it feels stupid.
you may not understand what it feels like.its like talking to her about how you and your husband made her?
how would you feel?
and im sorry if you thing im like shouting....but im actually writing it like im talking calmly so dont think im being rude.
Because she's worried of what you might think.
Parents don't want their little girls to have boyfriends and the children know that.
So they are scared of what you might say. She's probably under pressure by all of her friends having boyfriends and kissing boys. But she's stuck because she probably knows that you don't want her to have a boyfriend.
It would help a little bit if we knew her age, but I understand why you wouldn't put that out there, though.
She is probably just nervous and doesn't want you in her business. You just have to be nice and promise you won't say or do anything.
But she has to understand that you were also he age once and that you know what she's going through.
Hope this helps but I'm not sure.
it might be that she doesn't want you to know because she's afraid that you will be mad or that you would be in her business all the time. she might feel like you would look down on her for it. or she might be smart and know that your not ready for the boy thing, so she doesn't want to tell you.
i can see what you mean but i suppose its kinda a privacy thing, not the sort of thing a lot of girls would want to talk to parents about. it could also be that she answered yes because she felt under pressure from her peers, she might actually be telling you the truth.
Its better than her liking girls, isnt it? My first ';boyfriend'; was in 1st grade. Dont make her quit boys- just help her understand the rules of having a boyfriend. (You have to meet him and his parents, no being behind closed doors at home, you have to know where shes going on dates, etc.) Just go with it. It will all work out.
she's probably afraid that you'll react the way you just reacted.
Just tell her that it's ok to like boys, but you're not sure if you're comfortable with her dating quite yet.
even though im a teenage boy she dosent want you to be soo personal with her buisness and maybe she though you would never find out
maybe she lied on myspace survey ..And I would lie to you too if you snooped up my butt and invaded my myspace page. Let the kid breathe .
she knows your not happy with it so shes going to keep it from you, she maybe thinks it would hurt you.
It makes me wonder, what else she could be lying about.
to be entirely honest..
u cant stop her.
unless u lock her up in the house with no1 but you..
and i suppose u would not do that so lets look at reality.
to be honest...since u cant stp her seeing her boyfriend if she does have one etc then make sure she knows that ur there for her ..
that is all u can do...i mean..any other ideas? its all about trust and when she will want to talk about stuff she will,when she is ready...until then its worse to push her into it...that would show that ur desperate to get into her life,and i bet ur just trying to be a good mom....but she will not see it that way..
p.s kissing is not bad,as long as she knows that boundaries..Need advice on teenage daughter.......?
im 16 i use to date older men and lie to my mom. i use to date older men. i mean she is 13 of corse she already had a kiss. she don't want u to be snoppy she is afraid of wht u will say. and she wants to fit in. she may be hngin with the wrong pple look how many teens are prego she maybe the next
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Firstly, if you logged in as your daughters on her myspace you need to stop doing that and give her some privacy to live her own life.
Now, I'm 15 and I don't tell my mum everything because it's just weird to talk to your mum about some things (especially because my family would tease me) and it can be a bit embarrassing. I never told my mum about my first kiss because I knew she'd make a big thing of it.
She could also be lying because she's scared about what you will think, whether she is allowed a boyfriend or not.
Also, the chances are she hasn't kissed a boy and was lying on the survey because of peer pressure and all that.
Don't confront her about it; she will talk to you about it when she needs you, but for now you should respect her privacy and give her space to grow and make her own mistakes.
Because shes a teenager and they dont think its cool to talk to there mothers about anything. Well shes going to regret that decision trust me i was there not to long ago. Teenagers think they know whats best for them there old enough to drive and they ';know everything';. She isnt going to tell you chances are the only time she may come to talk to you is when one of these boys break her heart. Theres really nothing you can do unless you want to ground her from the myspace for lying but then shed know you spied on her and she would rebel even more you really just have to wait it out because the more you discipline her the more shes going to want to do things she shouldnt. Dont get me wrong when she messes up still discipline her. Just try to wait it out think about it this way your the most important to her and one of these days your the first person shes going to want to go to. Sorry i couldnt really help that much but good luck
Hello,
Ok look I know this is hard, but this is what teenagers do, not all but most teen girls are embarrassed about talking to their parents about boys and these strange feelings they have. If she really needs you I trust she will go to you for help. You need to be more open with her show that you can share things and don't ask her again again about boys. Things that will put her off talking to you is if you will make a big deal out of it or especially if you tell people she has a boyfriend. I know that put m,e of telling my mum, as much as I loved her I knew she would tell my family and make a deal out of it. So don't worry about it, maybe ask now or then whats her boyfriend called or if she would like to ask him over, act like this is no big deal. Also keep calm, all teenagers have crushes and kisses nothing to worry about, its better you open with her so if she needs to she can go to you for advice. Good luck kerry x
Are you friends with her on her myspace, or are you logging in to see what she's saying? If it's the latter, then that's a little odd. Maybe she can sense that you're not ready for the whole ';boy thing';, so she just doesn't tell you. And it's just a kiss (maybe), it's not really all that harmful.
Pick your battle. You can choose to confront her or you can choose to just keep trying to talk to her about it. You're the parent here.
She lied for the same reason I never told my parents about my love life, I didn't feel like I could talk to them about it and to a certain extent I was embarrassed.
If I was you don't mention anything about her myspace page but just start telling her about when you were her age and the boys you were into and kissed, then ask her if there are any boys she likes. This to me is a trust issue that you need to work on and you need to start off slow. If she starts to tell you stuff that freaks you out DON'T preach at her like my dad did to me, that is a sure way to get a kid to shut down on you.
Maybe she was lying on the MySpace -- she probably didn't want to look inexperienced and awkward.
Did you specifically ASK her if she's kissed a guy? If not, then how is she lying? :-) Kids will be extremely literal when it suits them to answer a question -- you just have to know which questions to ask. And maybe she doesn't WANT to talk to you about it. Honestly, what could she say? ';I kissed a guy at so-and-so's party!'; How is that information helpful to you? You're getting so worked up over a stupid MySpace survey, I'm sure she's leery of telling you ANYTHING for fear of you going ballistic!
Let's face it -- you know she's a teenager, you know that, if she's a normal kid, she's going to be interested in guys. Keep a close eye on her activities, where she's going, who she's going with, continue to maintain appropriate supervision, and don't be afraid to talk to her about sex. If you aren't comfortable talking about sex with her, try watching ';Secret Life of the American Teenager'; together and talk about it -- i.e., let her talk about it, and YOU listen.
Don't panic. You'll get through this!
How old is she? She is proabably afraid you will freak out on her if she told you the truth. Then again she may just be putting that stuff on there and not even doing that stuff. Peer pressure is a b**** and jsut gets worse every school year. And even though you told her that she can tell you anything she may think, ';yea she is just saying that to get me to tell her stuff and when i do i am going to be in trouble.'; she will come around one day.
well have a sit down talk with her, tell her whether not she is in to boys or not she should knows this for when she is in to boys.
and tell her how you feel, be honest. tell her you trust her but you have heard stories and you don't want those things to happen to her. tell her you think you might be over reacting and might have more moments like that but she should know how you feel.
tell her everything you think she should know tell her what happened to you. be honest with her and she will be honest with you. if she is not then at the very least you know you tried you best and hardest.
im a 14 year old .im a teenager too and even if i was in her place i would have lied too cause teens know that parents will not like it if we get boyfriends.just relax,take it easy.she is grown up and she can handle it just like most of kids her age.everyone in her school must be having one and its alright to have one.
and ya you are getting worried that she is not ready for all this.
why? its her life and she is ready to have a boy!its just you who thinks she is still a little baby.
JUST CAUSE YOU ARE NOT READY DOSE NOT MEAN SHE IS NOT READY.
let her live her life!
she lies to you cause she knows you wont appreciate it.and its not cool to talk about these things to moms and dads,it feels stupid.
you may not understand what it feels like.its like talking to her about how you and your husband made her?
how would you feel?
and im sorry if you thing im like shouting....but im actually writing it like im talking calmly so dont think im being rude.
Because she's worried of what you might think.
Parents don't want their little girls to have boyfriends and the children know that.
So they are scared of what you might say. She's probably under pressure by all of her friends having boyfriends and kissing boys. But she's stuck because she probably knows that you don't want her to have a boyfriend.
It would help a little bit if we knew her age, but I understand why you wouldn't put that out there, though.
She is probably just nervous and doesn't want you in her business. You just have to be nice and promise you won't say or do anything.
But she has to understand that you were also he age once and that you know what she's going through.
Hope this helps but I'm not sure.
it might be that she doesn't want you to know because she's afraid that you will be mad or that you would be in her business all the time. she might feel like you would look down on her for it. or she might be smart and know that your not ready for the boy thing, so she doesn't want to tell you.
i can see what you mean but i suppose its kinda a privacy thing, not the sort of thing a lot of girls would want to talk to parents about. it could also be that she answered yes because she felt under pressure from her peers, she might actually be telling you the truth.
Its better than her liking girls, isnt it? My first ';boyfriend'; was in 1st grade. Dont make her quit boys- just help her understand the rules of having a boyfriend. (You have to meet him and his parents, no being behind closed doors at home, you have to know where shes going on dates, etc.) Just go with it. It will all work out.
she's probably afraid that you'll react the way you just reacted.
Just tell her that it's ok to like boys, but you're not sure if you're comfortable with her dating quite yet.
even though im a teenage boy she dosent want you to be soo personal with her buisness and maybe she though you would never find out
maybe she lied on myspace survey ..And I would lie to you too if you snooped up my butt and invaded my myspace page. Let the kid breathe .
she knows your not happy with it so shes going to keep it from you, she maybe thinks it would hurt you.
It makes me wonder, what else she could be lying about.
Advice on teenage problem,s?
i live with my partner and 16 yr old son. he is normally quite good and dont have to many rows etc apart from leaving a mess or not tidying up room. but when we went to bed last night my partner discovered that son had stolen some money out of his change jar. prob about 30 quid in all. we have given him a lecture red riot act and threatened police action. any other suggestionsAdvice on teenage problem,s?
Stop shouting, start talking. If this behaviour is out of the ordinary, consider if this could be a plea for attention. What did he need the money for? Find out all the facts you can before you label him delinquentAdvice on teenage problem,s?
Has he admitted his guilt? Yes.
Can there be any doubt that it was him? No.
Then he must repay his debt. The obvious way is reduced pocket money until his debt is paid off but you could let him earn it by doing household chores etc. Decide on a sum for a particular job.
You will find the police to be completely useless, they won't even smack his hand and he will have escaped.
Under no circumstances should he get away with it, he will only repeat the offence.
Should he not co-operate have him wear mittens in the home. Tied on of course.
you threattened police action to your own son 4 a couple of dollars? what kind of freakin parent are you? *** out!!!!
sorry i'm just really wanted to say the f word!!!!
well dear
just give him pocket money each day
when every a kid becomes broke he thinks of these ways
so please be good parents for your kids
dont let them do this, by keeping their pocket full, i dont mean that give him alot but give at least 5 or 10 dollars a day
if your economical condition is good.
when a normally good child goes bad it is better to get to the root of the problem rather than alienate him further by 'readign the roti act'. threatening him with police action aslos seems a bit extreme
let it cool down then sit alone with ur son. apologise for the extreme reaction and then try to get to the bottom of it.u may find he stole the money coz he was coerced, maybe sth he wanted and was not allowed to buy, bullying, etc. acknowledge his goodness before u begin.
i wd say sth like: 'the other night we all got very upset and i may have said things all wrong. u are normally such a good boy and this theft shocked me very much. i love u and wd like to say am sorry for my reaction and wd like to understand why u took the money'
also no matter if he clams up or tells all, reiterate ur love and let him know that he is free to discuss the issue later but that u will not tolerate any more stealing
rent out the moive scum (its pretty old)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scum_(movie)
Get him to watch.
In particualr make sure he seens the rape and suicide scenes several times.
And maybe give something of his to charity
if he has a tv take it a way an things like that but sit him down an ask him why did he want the money x
dont fly off at him, it will just cause more problems, you should let him know gently what he has done is very wrong and that it wont be tolerated.
he needs to know that you mean business but you can relate to what he is going through and that most importantly you understand him.
steal it back
From what you say, this sounds like out of the ordinary behaviour. Talk to him (calmly) %26amp; find out why he did what he did - does he have an allowance, by the way?
Then, once the 'issues' have been sorted out %26amp; solutions agreed upon, then ask him to 'pay back' the money by way of additional chores around the house - be firm (nothing to easy) but fair (work out what each task is worth %26amp; be realistic).
Threatening police action is very extreme. He will think you don't care about him at all to be able to do that to him, and his behaviour will get worse.
Talk calmly to him and give him a chance to explain why he took it. It might just be one of those things. Maybe he hangs out with someone whose parents give them lots of money, or someone who earns a few quid from a job. Leaving money hanging around in a jar is a serious temptation to any teenager, I know I would have considered taking it and told myself I was just 'borrowing' it.
And apologise for threatening him with the police. You love him and care about him, and want to make sure he's OK.
Start by asking what he needed the money for? In case he is being bullied by others to get money.
I would then stop his pocket money if he gets any until the money is paid back, or make him do jobs around the house until he has earned enough for it to be paid back.
Threatening is good, but know that if he does it again, any threats you made this time you will have to carry out.
a bit harsh
you probebly dont want to hear this, but most teens i know, including myself, when we r skint will take abit of money from our parents. It may seem like stealing but its an easy way to get cash.
If he hasn't done this before and didn't do this as a child there could be another reason for the stealing..drugs...bullying...smoking all manner of things.
We reacted the same way with our son and he went completely off the rails.
Perhaps when you all get the time sit down with him and talk to him about what is happening in his life that would make him feel the need to take this money.
Suggest that if he wants more money you'll help him find a job.
Good kids don't usually start stealing for no reason.
Oh and move money to a safe place, I'm not suggesting that he will do this again but if there is a sinister reason for it then all the shouting in the world will not stop the stealing or threats of the police because let's face it the police really don't have the power to do anything anymore.
GL.
It difficult with teenagers and no one knows the best thing to do in situations like this. all i can suggest is talk to him find out what he needed the money for, does he get pocket money? explain that stealing is wrong and ask him to come to you if he wants money.mascara makeup
Stop shouting, start talking. If this behaviour is out of the ordinary, consider if this could be a plea for attention. What did he need the money for? Find out all the facts you can before you label him delinquentAdvice on teenage problem,s?
Has he admitted his guilt? Yes.
Can there be any doubt that it was him? No.
Then he must repay his debt. The obvious way is reduced pocket money until his debt is paid off but you could let him earn it by doing household chores etc. Decide on a sum for a particular job.
You will find the police to be completely useless, they won't even smack his hand and he will have escaped.
Under no circumstances should he get away with it, he will only repeat the offence.
Should he not co-operate have him wear mittens in the home. Tied on of course.
you threattened police action to your own son 4 a couple of dollars? what kind of freakin parent are you? *** out!!!!
sorry i'm just really wanted to say the f word!!!!
well dear
just give him pocket money each day
when every a kid becomes broke he thinks of these ways
so please be good parents for your kids
dont let them do this, by keeping their pocket full, i dont mean that give him alot but give at least 5 or 10 dollars a day
if your economical condition is good.
when a normally good child goes bad it is better to get to the root of the problem rather than alienate him further by 'readign the roti act'. threatening him with police action aslos seems a bit extreme
let it cool down then sit alone with ur son. apologise for the extreme reaction and then try to get to the bottom of it.u may find he stole the money coz he was coerced, maybe sth he wanted and was not allowed to buy, bullying, etc. acknowledge his goodness before u begin.
i wd say sth like: 'the other night we all got very upset and i may have said things all wrong. u are normally such a good boy and this theft shocked me very much. i love u and wd like to say am sorry for my reaction and wd like to understand why u took the money'
also no matter if he clams up or tells all, reiterate ur love and let him know that he is free to discuss the issue later but that u will not tolerate any more stealing
rent out the moive scum (its pretty old)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scum_(movie)
Get him to watch.
In particualr make sure he seens the rape and suicide scenes several times.
And maybe give something of his to charity
if he has a tv take it a way an things like that but sit him down an ask him why did he want the money x
dont fly off at him, it will just cause more problems, you should let him know gently what he has done is very wrong and that it wont be tolerated.
he needs to know that you mean business but you can relate to what he is going through and that most importantly you understand him.
steal it back
From what you say, this sounds like out of the ordinary behaviour. Talk to him (calmly) %26amp; find out why he did what he did - does he have an allowance, by the way?
Then, once the 'issues' have been sorted out %26amp; solutions agreed upon, then ask him to 'pay back' the money by way of additional chores around the house - be firm (nothing to easy) but fair (work out what each task is worth %26amp; be realistic).
Threatening police action is very extreme. He will think you don't care about him at all to be able to do that to him, and his behaviour will get worse.
Talk calmly to him and give him a chance to explain why he took it. It might just be one of those things. Maybe he hangs out with someone whose parents give them lots of money, or someone who earns a few quid from a job. Leaving money hanging around in a jar is a serious temptation to any teenager, I know I would have considered taking it and told myself I was just 'borrowing' it.
And apologise for threatening him with the police. You love him and care about him, and want to make sure he's OK.
Start by asking what he needed the money for? In case he is being bullied by others to get money.
I would then stop his pocket money if he gets any until the money is paid back, or make him do jobs around the house until he has earned enough for it to be paid back.
Threatening is good, but know that if he does it again, any threats you made this time you will have to carry out.
a bit harsh
you probebly dont want to hear this, but most teens i know, including myself, when we r skint will take abit of money from our parents. It may seem like stealing but its an easy way to get cash.
If he hasn't done this before and didn't do this as a child there could be another reason for the stealing..drugs...bullying...smoking all manner of things.
We reacted the same way with our son and he went completely off the rails.
Perhaps when you all get the time sit down with him and talk to him about what is happening in his life that would make him feel the need to take this money.
Suggest that if he wants more money you'll help him find a job.
Good kids don't usually start stealing for no reason.
Oh and move money to a safe place, I'm not suggesting that he will do this again but if there is a sinister reason for it then all the shouting in the world will not stop the stealing or threats of the police because let's face it the police really don't have the power to do anything anymore.
GL.
It difficult with teenagers and no one knows the best thing to do in situations like this. all i can suggest is talk to him find out what he needed the money for, does he get pocket money? explain that stealing is wrong and ask him to come to you if he wants money.
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what r u supposed 2 do while getting fingered...not 2 b awkward
does fingering hurt???Advice from teenage girls plz?
You asking this question makes me think you are too young to even be in a sexual relationship.
does fingering hurt???Advice from teenage girls plz?
You asking this question makes me think you are too young to even be in a sexual relationship.
Advice with teenage daughter!!!!!
I have 7 children (4 are mine from my first marriage, 3 are my step children but they live with us and are just like my own). My oldest is the oldest of the bunch. She is 17 1/2. She has always been a headstrong little thing but lately she is being more headstrong than usual. And it involves a boy. A nineteen old loser with no ambition and no respect for her or anyone else. He is into drugs and drinks. We live in a very small town and there is no one here that has anything nice to say at all about him. Well, yesterday I intercepted her trying to leave work with him. She had her bags packed and had left me a note about how she would be fine and how I shouldn't worry about her and just get on with my day. Well, needless to say I put her in my car and brought her home with me. She has a job at the bank, is involved with the co-op class at school this year (she's in 12th grade) which allows her to go to school in the morning and then go to work at the bank the rest of the day. I talked with her teacher today (I called him at home) and he agreed with me that she needs to quit her job, the co-op and I am transferring her out of this school.We (my husband and I and her) have discussed the possibilities of her going into the military. She is very open to this option. We have tried everything we can think of to keep her away from this guy...surprise..it didn't work!! We even asked him over yesterday and asked him to think about her and do the best thing for her and just step back for a few months. He said no. He knows that the chances of him finding someone as pretty and smart as she is is never going to happen for him again. He is preying on the insecurities that she, as a 17 old girl has. Like I said she is so headstrong and so sure that she's ready to grow up that she is risking her entire future just to go out into the world where there are no rules. We have been strict but very fair parents. She has always lied and sneaked around to get her way instead of doing it the way she is supposed to. I beg her to do things the right way but she just wants to take and take and not earn respect or trust from us. We have 6 other children who of course aren't perfect but they seem to learn their lessons and are truly sorry when the do something wrong. She is never sorry until the full reality of the consequences are laid out in front of her. I was exactly like her but I didn't have anyone to stop me from the mistakes I made. I was pregnant at 17 and married him at 18. Her father was a total loser, drug abuser/dealer, alcoholic, he beat me...the list goes on and on. I refuse to let her make this mistake. I will not just let her go';learn her own lesson'; . I wish everyday that someone would have stopped me. I just want to know if what I am doing is the right way to go about it. I have never been in this situation as a parent before and I just want to make the right decision and not mess her life up for her even worse than if I would have just done nothing. I am at such a loss..any good, ENCOURAGING advice would be very appreciated!!Advice with teenage daughter!!!!!
Even though you are being a caring mother, I remember what it was like being 17 and my thing was BUTT OUT!! I didn't want my mom telling me what was ';best'; for me. Speaking from experience because I was like her, there is not a whole lot you can do but make her safe. Is she on birth control? She needs to get condoms, because guaranteed they're having sex. There would be no way that this 19 year old would be interested if they're not having sex. Back in my hay day when I was her age I had sex when I barely knew them. Emotions ran high and being so naive you think you're going to be with that person forever. Because you disapprove so much you are just giving her even more desire to go behind your back. Maybe she wouldn't be interested if you ';appear'; to back off a little (don't really just appear to, manipulation is a great social skill). Because to her she feels like she is the adult, she is the one in control when she defies you.
I wouldn't have her quit her job because that is a very postive thing for her. If she doesn't have a job, you're just giving her opprotunites to have more free time to sneak out and go see him. Keep her busy! Do a lot of family stuff so she is busy all the time so she can't go see him.
OR- He is overage, she is underage you could go that route. Plus he is drinking underage, and abusing drugs. Advice with teenage daughter!!!!!
Somehow I figure you have, But have you told her about your story and about your experiences? Explain to her why it is in her best intrest to not to be with this guy. Have you sat down and listended to her talk about this guy? What is that she finds so absolutely appealing, Not what do you think is it is. As much as she dooesn't want to listen, you need to make her see. Sit her down and say hey We are willing to do everything in our power to keep you on the right track, we are trying our best and we need your help. Tell her what's on your mind, what these people say about him, ask her what she really thinks of him. tell her why you feel the way you do.
Transfering her out of that school maybe the best thing, but just make sure that she understands your reasoning or it's likely she will just runaway again.
It didn't work for me, I learned from my mistakes, but thanks to the advice from my parents I got out before it was too late.
What tact are you taking when you are speaking to her about these issues? Are you pretty much just forbidding her from being with that boy? Your daughter is old enough to discuss her feelings and motivations with you. If you haven't already, I suggest you sit her down and calmly discuss her actions with her. LISTEN to the reasons why she is doing what she is doing and calmly and respectfully offer your perspective. Too many times parents, in their quest to keep their child from being hurt, do not actually have a REAL conversation with their children about the matter. Instead they just tell their children that they are not allowed to do ';this'; or ';that'; for whatever reason, without ever finding out their child's thoughts. The bad part about this is that the most common reaction of the child is to rebel because he/she feels as if his/her thoughts are not being taken into consideration, therefore his/her parents don't understand the situation, making the parents insights unhelpful.
Even though you are being a caring mother, I remember what it was like being 17 and my thing was BUTT OUT!! I didn't want my mom telling me what was ';best'; for me. Speaking from experience because I was like her, there is not a whole lot you can do but make her safe. Is she on birth control? She needs to get condoms, because guaranteed they're having sex. There would be no way that this 19 year old would be interested if they're not having sex. Back in my hay day when I was her age I had sex when I barely knew them. Emotions ran high and being so naive you think you're going to be with that person forever. Because you disapprove so much you are just giving her even more desire to go behind your back. Maybe she wouldn't be interested if you ';appear'; to back off a little (don't really just appear to, manipulation is a great social skill). Because to her she feels like she is the adult, she is the one in control when she defies you.
I wouldn't have her quit her job because that is a very postive thing for her. If she doesn't have a job, you're just giving her opprotunites to have more free time to sneak out and go see him. Keep her busy! Do a lot of family stuff so she is busy all the time so she can't go see him.
OR- He is overage, she is underage you could go that route. Plus he is drinking underage, and abusing drugs. Advice with teenage daughter!!!!!
Somehow I figure you have, But have you told her about your story and about your experiences? Explain to her why it is in her best intrest to not to be with this guy. Have you sat down and listended to her talk about this guy? What is that she finds so absolutely appealing, Not what do you think is it is. As much as she dooesn't want to listen, you need to make her see. Sit her down and say hey We are willing to do everything in our power to keep you on the right track, we are trying our best and we need your help. Tell her what's on your mind, what these people say about him, ask her what she really thinks of him. tell her why you feel the way you do.
Transfering her out of that school maybe the best thing, but just make sure that she understands your reasoning or it's likely she will just runaway again.
It didn't work for me, I learned from my mistakes, but thanks to the advice from my parents I got out before it was too late.
What tact are you taking when you are speaking to her about these issues? Are you pretty much just forbidding her from being with that boy? Your daughter is old enough to discuss her feelings and motivations with you. If you haven't already, I suggest you sit her down and calmly discuss her actions with her. LISTEN to the reasons why she is doing what she is doing and calmly and respectfully offer your perspective. Too many times parents, in their quest to keep their child from being hurt, do not actually have a REAL conversation with their children about the matter. Instead they just tell their children that they are not allowed to do ';this'; or ';that'; for whatever reason, without ever finding out their child's thoughts. The bad part about this is that the most common reaction of the child is to rebel because he/she feels as if his/her thoughts are not being taken into consideration, therefore his/her parents don't understand the situation, making the parents insights unhelpful.
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